Batya33 Posted March 31, 2007 Share Posted March 31, 2007 I don't believe one going through separation and divorce - particularly where there was abuse and kids involved can fully trust their feelings of readiness because generally - with exceptions - there will be so much mixed in that would cloud the judgment of even the most together, stable person - that goes for all sorts of crisis situations, not just separation and divorce. It's the same reason many people decide not to get married within weeks of meeting - because they know that they want to wait until the smittendom state settles down a bit and they get to know the real person and they get to be back to normal somewhat and not on cloud nine. Similarly with divorce, most people I know are not themselves while going through it and their choices - not just in dating but in other areas of life are atypical of what they would usually do. That could work out just fine but it sure sounds unnecesarily risky to me, particularly if there are kids involved. Just my humble opinion. I wish you the best of luck, but I don't think you're in a position to say whether your relationship will stand the test of time -- not saying it won't I am just saying that your relationship is not yet an example of the success of a relationship that started while one person was still married. Link to comment
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