the empty drawer Posted March 30, 2007 Share Posted March 30, 2007 Not even just five minutes ago I got an idea...and want a few second opinions on if I should act on it. Quick background: Even though I am in my twenties I still pathetically live at home and thus under the "house rules" which I comply too completely. That includes letting my parents have access to any websites I visit and what user names I use. Not that they actually check (that I know of) but I still comply. Okay, I feel like I do not know my Mother very well but wish I did. We talk daily but we always end up fighting. So because I let my parents have access to where I go online I was thinking of doing the same thing to my Mother and check-up on what she does online, she uses web forums more than I do. My parents have not told me to not check their web forums for what they post. Would I be overstepping my grounds to do some snooping, the intent of which is to hopefully mend the bond between my Mother and I, by seeing her act like herself with other people? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
melrich Posted March 30, 2007 Share Posted March 30, 2007 I wouldn't do it. What are you going to gain? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CharlesF Posted March 30, 2007 Share Posted March 30, 2007 I think it is a bad idea. If she finds out you snooped (say you accidentally mention something that you found out), she will be mad. I think you know snooping is not right, or you would not ask. Also, they have the house rules because they are paying the bills, not you. Try mending the relationship with your mother some other way. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
the empty drawer Posted March 30, 2007 Author Share Posted March 30, 2007 I wouldn't do it. What are you going to gain? Just trying to see how she acts when she acts like herself. And yes they "pay the bills not me". They also choose to support me while I was going to college, I did not ask them too, and part of that was that I shouldn't have a job so I can do well in my classes. Nearly everyone I know began to form more of a friendship bond with their parents after High School My parents refuse to let me form that bond with them. Yes, I have directly used those words that I want that kind of connection of them. they don't, hence the fighting of how dare I try to be an equal to them. Its a bit frustrating. I want to know how my parents act when they aren't in parent mode...thus my very recent random idea of "snooping". Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CharlesF Posted March 30, 2007 Share Posted March 30, 2007 Maybe things will be different when you move out of the house. If you aren't seeing them every day, you would have a different relationship. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
WAlien Posted March 30, 2007 Share Posted March 30, 2007 Instead of snooping around, how about you ask her outright which forums she hangs out at? Or ask her out shopping with you! Because your clothing tastes will be different, shop for other things like food or others. If it's hard to talk to her face-to-face, try emailing her. ^^ Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
b2761 Posted March 30, 2007 Share Posted March 30, 2007 I agree with WA- there are other ways to bond with her. "Snooping" is being nosy. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Night Pumpkin Posted March 30, 2007 Share Posted March 30, 2007 Why don't you move out from your parent's house ?? It sounds like you really need your space... Just trying to see how she acts when she acts like herself. And yes they "pay the bills not me". They also choose to support me while I was going to college, I did not ask them too, and part of that was that I shouldn't have a job so I can do well in my classes. Nearly everyone I know began to form more of a friendship bond with their parents after High School My parents refuse to let me form that bond with them. Yes, I have directly used those words that I want that kind of connection of them. they don't, hence the fighting of how dare I try to be an equal to them. Its a bit frustrating. I want to know how my parents act when they aren't in parent mode...thus my very recent random idea of "snooping". Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
the empty drawer Posted March 31, 2007 Author Share Posted March 31, 2007 Ok ok, my bad idea last night I am not gonna do. No snooping, although it would be easy. Anyway I have plans to move out by the end of this year...and there is no way I would stay longer because I need a life. Part of me worries that when I don't see her everyday I won't ever be able to connect to her as a person. So a better plan is to talk to her via email (quicker than hand writing). Then I can try and get the words I want to say out and she can read them at her own pace. Thanks for replies. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Locke2121 Posted March 31, 2007 Share Posted March 31, 2007 Careful, you may find they are popular swingers! My advice...let mom and dad have their privacy. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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