heartbaby14 Posted March 29, 2007 Share Posted March 29, 2007 I don't know if anyone can really help with this, but I have to vent. My husband is seriously going to drive me insane. He is the most selfish person that I have ever met. What drives me the most nuts, though is that he keeps accusing me of acting a certain way when it is really him who is doing it. He says that everything has to be my way or I get mad, which is not true, I compromise all the time. He, on the other hand, gets mad all the time if things aren't exactly as he wants. If he asks me to do something and I don't just do it, he gets pissed. I can say a single word to him or ask why. He lies to me about stupid stuff. He tries to order me around when I've made it clear, just ask me and I'll do it. Order me, and I will not respond. I never order him around. I say please and thank you. I try to be a good wife, but I am not going to compromise my values. He agrees to things and then gets mad when he has to live up to the agreement. He thinks that if he does something around the house I should praise him, but if I do something, big whoop, it doesn't matter, I should be doing more as a "proper woman". I don't want to have kids with this man. I love him, but I am not willing to take on the responsibility of a child alone, which is basically what I would be doing since he thinks that the responsibility for a child is entirely the woman's. I've never been that sure that I wanted kids and I definitely never wanted to be a single mom. My husband has no concept of respecting anyone else's space, time, stuff, etc. He is only ever concerned with himself, and I have tried to get him to understand, but he is so self-involved. He only cares about what he wants/likes. It doesn't matter if it is something important to me as well. He is forcing me to be more selfish as well because otherwise he would just run roughshod over me. I've tried getting him to compromise, but he doesn't think he should have to. He really seems to think that the world revolves around him. He's vain, selfish, childish, dishonest. I swear, it's like I am married a 13 yr old not a 30 yr old. I love him, but I don't know how much more of this I can handle. We haven't been married that long and when we first got married I was severely depressed (hereditary condition I've had probs off and on for years), and I kept telling myself that things were so hard with him only because I was depressed. I'm not anymore though. I started seeing a doctor and a therapist and I've been on anti-depressants for a while now. I feel great now, but I still feel like my husband is going to drive me insane. Can people really change? Or should I give up hope that my husband can get better? Link to comment
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