chickidee23 Posted March 28, 2007 Share Posted March 28, 2007 Hello to everyone and CONGRATULATIONS to those of you who are pregnant! I have a question, though- I have always wanted kids more than anything else and I think I'm going to LOVE being pregnant! However, so many women say they are "fat" when they are pregnant. I don't understand this! Of course they are going to get bigger- they have a whole baby inside of them!!! Anyone willing to give me some insight on this? Link to comment
AwdreeHpburn Posted March 28, 2007 Share Posted March 28, 2007 I don't get it either chickadee - I've never really been that vain. When my (ex) sister-in-law was pregant, one of my girlfriends who hadn't seen her in a while said to her, "awww....look at you! You're getting so big." Unbeknownst to us, my (ex) sister-in-law got REALLY offended. She's such a cow. Link to comment
Jetta Posted March 28, 2007 Share Posted March 28, 2007 I looked fat when I was pregnant and it was awful. I gained weight everywhere (not just the belly) and didn't look really pregnant until the end of my pregnancy (at least that's how I felt). Looking back on photos it wasn't as bad as I remember it being. We know there's a baby inside, but it doesn't seem real. What's real is our clothes don't fit, our bodies are changing and we can't control it. It was especially hard for me because the pregnancy was unplanned. I almost went to Jenny Craig because I didn't realize initially I was pregnant, I just started gaining weight. Link to comment
greenmonster Posted March 28, 2007 Share Posted March 28, 2007 Theres a HUGE difference between getting "Big" and getting "Fat" some pregnant women use it as an excuse to be lazy, eat anything, and pack on the pounds....all because they are preggers or under the banner of "I'm eating for two"....others still are simply miss-informed about weight gain durring pregnancy and think that you are suppose to put on like 50-75lbs a friend of mine's wife(who is a total idiot) put on 35lbs in the first 3 months of pregnancy...she said that since she was eating for two she needed to make sure the baby was getting enough to eat...at 3 months the kid weighs like 2 ounces...pretty sure its getting more than plenty the truth is...and talk to any doctor about this...exercise and proper diet are HIGHLY recomended durring pregnancy... sure...your going to put on some weight...and there are girls that see this as getting fat...but putting on weight because you are pregnant and getting bigger because of it is totally understandable and controllable... my sister gained 24lbs durring her first pregnancy...20 on the 2nd... The child only weighs 6-9lbs when its born typically...so unless there is a medical reason like ordered bed rest, or a glandular problem...there is no reason for a woman to completely go overboard on weight gain. Link to comment
chickidee23 Posted March 28, 2007 Author Share Posted March 28, 2007 My sister-in-law is just starting to show and when my mom saw her, she said, "Aw you're showing now!!" and my sister-in-law forced a smile but began to cry. My mom felt horrible! What does she expect, though? People get excited about babies and big bellies with babies in them.. it's never meant as an insult! I think that women who are pregnant are some of the most beautiful women out there! Link to comment
AwdreeHpburn Posted March 28, 2007 Share Posted March 28, 2007 some pregnant women use it as an excuse to eat anything, and pack on the pounds....all because they are preggers or under the banner of "I'm eating for two".... HECK YEH!!! What other time could we guiltlessly eat a whole chocolate cake and 4 tacos from Taco Bell? Huh? Never. Enjoy it ladies! Eat til you're full up! Link to comment
chickidee23 Posted March 28, 2007 Author Share Posted March 28, 2007 I looked fat when I was pregnant and it was awful. I gained weight everywhere (not just the belly) and didn't look really pregnant until the end of my pregnancy (at least that's how I felt). Looking back on photos it wasn't as bad as I remember it being. We know there's a baby inside, but it doesn't seem real. What's real is our clothes don't fit, our bodies are changing and we can't control it. It was especially hard for me because the pregnancy was unplanned. I almost went to Jenny Craig because I didn't realize initially I was pregnant, I just started gaining weight. I can understand it to a point if you didn't plan the pregnancy. Link to comment
greenmonster Posted March 28, 2007 Share Posted March 28, 2007 OH...and forgot... women are beautiful when they are pregnant...its a wonderful thing... don't take my above statements too harsh...everyones body is different and will react to things in very different ways... I understand that all girls wish to feel beautiful at all times...if for no other reason than vainitys sake... but pregnancy is a great and natural thing that weight gain is expected...and just because your cheeks might puff up and your pants don't fit don't think that your fat & ugly... but if you are concerned with your body and how it looks then just make sure that you don't fall into that trap of being lazy and putting on weight just because you have an excuse to hide behind. Link to comment
chickidee23 Posted March 28, 2007 Author Share Posted March 28, 2007 HECK YEH!!! What other time could we guiltlessly eat a whole chocolate cake and 4 tacos from Taco Bell? Huh? Never. Enjoy it ladies! Eat til you're full up! LOL! That is a very good point! Link to comment
greenmonster Posted March 28, 2007 Share Posted March 28, 2007 HECK YEH!!! What other time could we guiltlessly eat a whole chocolate cake and 4 tacos from Taco Bell? Huh? Never. Enjoy it ladies! Eat til you're full up! HAHA... trust me...I would probably do the same thing if men could get preggers we would all weigh in at 300+lbs at labor...it would be a contest... Link to comment
chickidee23 Posted March 28, 2007 Author Share Posted March 28, 2007 my sister gained 24lbs durring her first pregnancy...20 on the 2nd... That's a good amount of weight to gain. Link to comment
greenmonster Posted March 28, 2007 Share Posted March 28, 2007 That's a good amount of weight to gain. she worked out and ate right...her boys were both in the upper 8lbs range at birth. my sis isnt a big girl, she's 5'3" about 120lbs normally...so she thought it was a lot because of how much she normally weighs...but in reality I know of girls that have put on over 70lbs durring pregnancy...just doesn't make sense... Link to comment
BellaDonna Posted March 28, 2007 Share Posted March 28, 2007 However, so many women say they are "fat" when they are pregnant. I don't understand this! Of course they are going to get bigger- they have a whole baby inside of them!!! Anyone willing to give me some insight on this? I'll admit- I feel like the fattest horse in the world. I am not very happy with my new look. Before this pregnancy I was thin and very fit- I weight trained a lot - had defined ab muscles and did intense cardio. I had a very strict diet and limited carbs and sugar. Now I cannot let my heart-rate go over 140 beats per minute and have been told not to lift more than 25 pounds- so I feel like all the hard work on my muscles was in vain because they have softened since they are no longer challenged. I also have to eat more carbohydrates to have a balanced diet, and I no longer use artificial sweetners like I did before pregnancy because I do not trust them. I still eat healthy, do yoga, light weight training, belly dancing and swimming- but I feel like a total BLOB. For me it's been very hard to let go of the physical ideals I had for myself and accept my "new body". I am not an "unhappy" pregnant woman though. I just don't think I look good. Luckily my husband has been very supportive of me and full of compliments, so it makes me feel a little better. But it's me being hard on myself, no one else. I must say though, every time I feel a little kick I know this is all worth it. I know this will be 100% worth it in the end. The benefits of bringing a life into this world far outweigh any costs I will face physcially. But I don't think I will ever feel "beautiful" or "sexy" during this pregnancy as long as I keep seeing the numbers on the scale increase each time I go to the doctor's. I have banished my scale to the basement because I refuse to even look at it. At the same time- I'm very happy that my baby is growing so well. I just feel like this is the ultimate sacrifice of my body- and pray that I will go back to my pre-pregnancy state quickly once the baby is born. I'll be that woman running down the street with one of those 3-wheeled baby carriages, trying to get my fat behind back in shape. I just can't wait until the baby is here, in my arms instead of in my tummy. BellaDonna Link to comment
RayKay Posted March 28, 2007 Share Posted March 28, 2007 Well, I have had many pregnant friends whom felt this way, regardless of how much they put on because even if it is "only" 20 lbs, it sure can feel like a lot particularly when you are smaller framed to begin with! Some women also put on weight ALL over, even if they do take care of themselves, get bloated, uncomfortable, tired...so don't feel so good about themselves. Depends on your current weight/frame, but women can put anywhere from 10ish lbs (for those already larger) to 60 or 70 lbs...they say around 20-30ish is healthier though. It is also much easier to lose afterwards if you do continue to take care of yourself during pregnancy. I know when I do have children, it will be tough for me too as I am someone whom takes very good care of my health (nutritionally and exercise wise) and while I will continue those for my health and that of my baby, it will be hard to deal with the changing body even if I AM excited about it and even if I know that after birth I will be working to lose it! Like Bella, I would be the one with the baby jogger...... Link to comment
chickidee23 Posted March 28, 2007 Author Share Posted March 28, 2007 Thanks BellaDonna- you explained that well. It does make sense. It's such a rapid, huge change! I think perhaps it's fair to blame society for women feeling they are "fat" during pregnancy?? The pressure to be thin is intense. Hard as I try, I will admit I fall into the skinny craze. I am by no means fat but I used to be about 10 lbs lighter. Somewhere deep down I know it's because I am not 16 anymore and that I now have a woman's body but I still strive to lose those pesky 10 lbs- I eat very well and work out regularly. I just want to restate what I said before- Pregnant women are just amazingly beautiful and as BellaDonna put it, it will be worth it! Link to comment
RayKay Posted March 28, 2007 Share Posted March 28, 2007 Well, I honestly think it is also just a FEELING because your body sometimes won't feel your own - with the extra hormones, overworking bladder, tiredness, bloatedness....it's not just what others say (I never really say media say anything other than pregnancy is beautiful honestly.....) it is an actual FEELING rather then pressure to be thin during pregnancy.....it is just it takes over your whole body and brain! Link to comment
chickidee23 Posted March 28, 2007 Author Share Posted March 28, 2007 I didn't mean how media portrayed pregnancy but women in general. Link to comment
BellaDonna Posted March 28, 2007 Share Posted March 28, 2007 Thanks BellaDonna- you explained that well. It does make sense. It's such a rapid, huge change! Yes, it is certainly HUGE, lol. Link to comment
shikashika Posted March 28, 2007 Share Posted March 28, 2007 HECK YEH!!! What other time could we guiltlessly eat a whole chocolate cake and 4 tacos from Taco Bell? Huh? Never. Enjoy it ladies! Eat til you're full up! sorry I totally disagree with this... just because one is pregnant is no excuse to eat what you want and become a fat pig... I see women who do this and its totally uneccesary.. Just because onw is pregant does not excuse lack of exercise or poor eating habits. My mother, friends and others only missed 10 days of running throughout their entire pregnancy. i think many women just want to pork out and can 'safely' use pregnancy as their excuse! Link to comment
caro33 Posted March 29, 2007 Share Posted March 29, 2007 Maybe some women can run every day when pregnant, and maybe they were super fit to start with, I don't know. For me, nowadays I start to get breathless with very little exercise, and I feel lightheaded. The concept of doing anything more than a gentle walk just does not work for me. I am not alone in this - pregnant women, particularly in the first trimester (and all the last or just some?) often feel exhausted. The progesterone coursing through my body causes the breathlessness and it is not fun. Anyway, about weight. I hate 'getting fat' because I AM getting fat, or at least I look it. Like RayKay said, I am putting it on all over, and retaining fluid also. I had a small waist to start with, it's not the waist that's the problem, it's the giant boobs and hips. Can't fit into anything and I feel heavy and matronly. I wish I was one of those gorgeous, slim women who just look like they've had a belly attached, but I am more the chunky fertility goddess type I'm afraid. It also brings up baggage because I was this size a few years ago after a bad time in my life. I then lost 10 kilos and had loved being slim and attractive. I decided I would never be fat and invisible again. Ah, and here I am. I had put on some weight before I fell pregnant anyway... Now the baby doesn't even seem real to me yet, I haven't even seen the obstetrician (next week though). I am certainly grateful the baby seems to be okay so far, but the issues I have with feeling fat and unattractive are still legit. I hope they go away though as I start to actually look pregnant and be able to tell people... Link to comment
BellaDonna Posted March 29, 2007 Share Posted March 29, 2007 Caro33, It does get better once your tummy starts to show. I am relieved in a way that people can now tell that "I'm pregnant" instead of just thinking I gained weight fo no good reason. And in the first trimester I was totally exhausted and the only exercise I could do was yoga and very light swimming. The first trimester is all about survival. I would not worry too much about having the perfect diet and exercising vigorously. You just need to eat what you can digest at the time (because most of the time you are nausous anyways), and be sure to get your vitamins. If you have any ounce of stregth left to exercise, then that is wonderful- but don't feel guilty if you don't. You will feel better in the 2nd trimester and can re-assess the situation then. BellaDonna Link to comment
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