sk11 Posted March 28, 2007 Share Posted March 28, 2007 I have been dating the guy for more than twenty dates in about four months’ time. He is 32, handsome, very experienced, and successful and has a son. I am 28. We have never had sex, although we went to bed together just for cuddling, kissing and waking up with each other. I never need to initiate any contact or ask him out cause he has done all the chasing. We were doing a very traditional dating style and all have been perfect and sweet. But last night in his house when I talked to him that I did not feel close enough to him. He broke up with me and told me that if I still could not feel the chemistry after four months’ efforts. He would give up and he believed that he can not force me to feel for him. Besides, he showed me one text from a strange girl who sent during the conversation and told me he does not even remember her. And I explained to him that he misunderstood me and I did not mean to break up but to find a way to get closer. I like him 10 out of 10 and he is the first person I met who I thought about family and children. He told me that was not enough as he never had a doubt to be with me and he was waiting for me to be the same - have no doubt to be with him He said he had his pride and asked me to leave his house, and he would walk me to the tube station but I insisted to stay for a last night together. I wanted to have one night stand for the last night since we would not see each other ever again and told him that I always wanted him physically and emotionally. I wanted to know what it is like as I have been curious for the last four months and I wanted to have a one night stand in my life. But he refused to have sex and only cuddled me and told me this was not the last night and I would understand a few days later. He told me all I could get from him that day is cuddling and a cup of tea in the morning. I asked him if he thinks I am not good enough or that he thought he can never get me completely so he gave up finally. But he said neither was true but something more complicated and he could get anyone he wants. I asked him if it was true that how cold he acted to me means how much he was hurt by me and thereforeeee how much he liked me. He answered yes, something like that. When I told him that I want him to be in love with me, he replied that he wanted me to be in love with him... He said he had started to fall for me and the love was growing. He also said we could have ended up together and he had not felt for anyone like that for a long time. But now he wants to have a little while to for both of us to think where we stand and he will call me after the weekend. He asked me if I understand why he is doing this and said he would call me tonight to explain because I said to him I was not sure about where he was coming from and I did not want any misunderstanding. I am really confused why he does this and where he is coming from… does it mean he really gives up or just wants to push me in order to pull me in even closer? Otherwise why does he bother to call me tonight to explain and also call me after the weekend? Link to comment
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