mobetta Posted March 27, 2007 Share Posted March 27, 2007 Sorry, this is going to be long. I have been with my husband for 7 VERY LONG YEARS. We have only been married for about 18 months. We have two daughters, six, and 11 months. Okay...to give you some history, while my husband and I were dating he was unfaithful, ALOT. Well we finally split up in May of 2005, and apparently he "saw the light" or whatever and decided that I was the only one for him, yadda, yadda, yadda. We got married in September of 2005, and at first everything was fine. I explained to him that if his old behavior should ever show up again...I'm out, period. There are also alot of "checks" on my part, because he had to earn my trust again. Now his infidelity is not our only problem. Quite frankly he an A-hole, and I mean the kind where people in our old neighborhood actually approached me to tell me how much they hated him. He's the screaming maniac honking the horn and cursing at you for driving too slow (when you aren't). He's the guy that swoops in front of you when you've been waiting for a parking space to open up for half an hour. He's also the kind of guy to give his wife a cell phone for Christmas, and then take it everytime he gets upset with you. You get the picture. Well recently I found out he has been talking and text messenging some girl and he told her that we were separated. She says that they never actually saw each other...it was just the message exchanges and occasional phone call. Now this is the same pattern of behavior from before...there was always the communication with someone...then the action. Also...where there is one person...there are always more, which leads me to believe that this is the only female that I know about, but this isn't the end of it. He is VERY manipulative. He will work a situation for all that he can, and he knows that I am a very loyal person. He knows that I don't stay upset for long, and that breaking up my family is not something that I would ever want to do unless absolutely unavoidable. I told him that I wanted to sit down and talk about what happened, and he has refused. He says that he has said he is sorry, and he has nothing else to say about it. He says I should "do whatever I want to". Basically he is saying he doesn't care what I do, just make a decision and let him know. I feel like this is his way of bullying me because he doesn't think that I will leave. It makes me want to leave that much more, and makes me realize just how heartless his is...I can't figure out what to do. In the meantime he is treating ME like crap....like I did something wrong, like taking my cell phone from me. I know that if I don't make the right move things will get worse, not better. Please help, any advice is appreciated. -Mo Link to comment
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