Me against everyone...

[anto11]

I had broken up really badly with my girlfriend, she really hurt me and betrayed me. My friends and family were there to support me no matter what, and always backed me up. Basically she had feelings for someone I knew, but constantly lied to me about it. Anyways, we stopped talking for 6 months, and I really wanted to talk to her, and I haven't stopped loving her. About 2 weeks ago, out out of nowhere, she messaged me and said she wanted to talk to me. I didn't know what to do, I talked to my parents and friends about it, and they all said don't message back. I ended up messaging her back, and now we have been talking on the phone at night, and know one knows about it. I want to take her back, I really believe shes finally changed, and I don't know why, I just want to try it out again with her. But I know I wont have any support from anyone, they have all told me before that they would feel slapped in the face if I went back to her. What do I do? She has told me she understands my situation, and will respect my desicion if I can't take her back. But I really want to, I just feel it's unfair that I have to choose like this, if they were true friends, and my family really did love me, would they not support me know matter what? Even if they feel its the wrong choice. I can't keep doing this behind everyones back.

[shikashika]

Your family or friends aren't dating her... so it doesn't matter what they think... even if they give you some flack about it..

 

See ho things go with her.. but just be cautious!

and good luck!

[greenmonster]

your primary concern shouldn't be weather or not your friends & family will feel slapped in the face...it should be weather or not this girl has actually grown up and is being genuine with you...and if you can trust her.

 

Shikashika is right...your friends & fam aren't dating her and yes, they will give you a hard time about it...

 

but in the end...its about you and this girl and whats between you two.

 

ALSO...don't let the last 6 months of being alone and wishing for her be the primary motiviation to getting back. take a couple steps back and really look at this situation. I've been in your boat before and when I stepped back and really got to looking at things I realized that the girl I had spent all that time wanting really wasn't worth it at all.

[terk2021]

anto,

 

All valid points above. You need to weigh what your heart and mind are telling you. It's not up to your family and friends what choice you make. When you love someone, it's hard to determine what to do. Ultimately, I believe your true friends will be there for you no matter what. Good luck.

 

Terk

[ncnc]

It is totally up to you if you want to get back with this girl.

 

The only reason your family will be upset+possibly not support you is because this girl hurt you so bad, they witnessed all the pain you went through+it hurt them to see you go through it!!! They will be scared that she'll hurt you again, that is why they will find it hard to take.

 

BUT at the end of the day if you know she is going to make you happy+you can Fully Trust her then go for it!!

 

Explain to your family you+her have had a real heart to heart, she makes you happy so your going to give her another try but it'll be on your terms+your goin to take it slow!

 

Keep us updated+Good Luck!!

[anto11]

thanks for the great advice guys! ill keep you all updated!