Just Venting....

[setsuko1981]

A little BG:

 

Well, its turning out that I might be wrong...

She likes me as a friend and wants to keep me as one, but so far she doesn't like me more than that.

Though she never tells me that "she's not interested" in me, I believe its because she's afraid to reject me because she'll feel guilty about it.

But she has shown that she cares for me (I'm not going to mention any details). She knows that I care for her too, but she doesn't know that I care for her more than I care for myself.

I know that its just me that is going fast, but how can I be fast? I just want to know if the feeling is mutual.

Some of you will say that down the road, she'll probably develop some feelings for me, and that it takes time for feelings to develop...I don't know what to say.

I guess I really am going too fast...I feel like I've given my heart to her that it hurts if the feelings that I have for her will be unrequited.

I really am confused and somewhat hurting...I guess that's part of learning

[robowarrior]

Feelings might not always be mutual, so don't go in a relationship thinking it will work out just because its your case, reality is that a woman can pack her bags and leave anyday. Heck nowadays the girl divorces from the guy and runs away with his sister. What im saying is that you need to protect your own feelings.

 

You need to be like a castle gate closing yourself to bad people/things/events, and open yourself up to good people/things/events, if you let the enemy into your castle they will only end up destroying it(even if its family), and leaving you crying over the ruins.From there you can keep on crying, or rebuild your life, i advice you to rebuild your life.

 

If you expose your heart while its not mutual, you are just opening yourself up for a lot of pain.

 

So from now on think ' it may or may not work out, and if it won't work out, i will emotionally prepare myself as best as possible when a rejection comes, but hey.

 

You always miss if you never shoot right? So once your ready, its a win win situation for you, if you ask her out and she says no, you can move on with your life, if she says yes, you have a date.

 

Keep on pursuading her until she gives in, unless she explicitly tells you that she doesn't want you in her life.