Last Posted March 27, 2007 Share Posted March 27, 2007 Hello. Just joined these forums. Looking for some advice and help. I have been with my girlfriend over 6 months now, and found out about 3 months in that she was sexually abused by a family member when she was a child. Now the relationship is great, and I do believe that I love her, my first proper relationship really, and I'd be torn apart if I lost her. Sexually it's not so great, but I can understand the reasoning behind it too, I only receive, not through choice, and am not allowed to return the favour and no intercourse. Nothing below the belt on her basically. I may have been a little pushy, but not really, I have asked every-now-and-again if I can return the favour. Always a no, and she has said sex soon but I cannot forsee it happening. So have given up on that, and maybe one-day she'll be ready. She occasionally has moods, where she'll become very clingy, stop talking and sometimes cry, and this is due to that as have asked, and although she doesn't talk about it, she did nod when I asked if it was the reason. It tears me apart. I can't stand seeing her like it, just hold her and tell her I love her, for long time until she feels in a better head-space. I don't know what else to do. She does not talk about it, and I don't want to try and make her, I just want to know really how I can help her, and what I can do. Thanks very much to anyone who can give some advice. I'll be very grateful. Link to comment
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