MountainDrew Posted March 25, 2007 Share Posted March 25, 2007 A little background first: My girlfriend and I have been together for over 3.5 years, with a couple month breakup recently. I am a sophomore in college and she is a freshman, and we are about 5 hours away from each other when we are at college. Here's the deal. One of the things that I have been so attracted to about my girlfriend is that she always shared the same views with me on drinking. Basically that we don't want to. And as of right now we haven't. The problem is that I hate drinking with such a passion that it can get scary, and she just didn't really like the idea of it. Well she's in her first year of college and I think it is changing her because lately she has brought up trying it together and we have been discussing it. Now, I love this girl more than anything in the entire world and I don't want to jeopardize that at all. So I have said a few times that I will drink with her. She describes it as her just being a little curious about it. But I am sensing that it has much more to do with peer pressure than anything else. Many of her friends drink once in awhile and being social is very important to her, so I think that she feels left out and not "cool" when she turns them down or hangs out sober with them while they drink. The only way I can explain my feelings right now is that I feel like I'm sort of losing a part of this girl that was so important to me. She was always this super innocent girl who was so perfect in my mind, but now she just wants to be like every other college student. We had something unique. So here is the actual problem. Like I mentioned before, we have been talking about trying this out. I have said yes a few times, but then changed my mind a few days later after thinking about it. Well she is coming down next weekend to visit me at school and we are once again discussing this. I'm confused because I want to make her happy and have her experience what she wants to, I'm just afraid that I won't feel the same way about her. What really scares me is that I have told her that her drinking might change the way I look at her, but she just says "Yeah, I know." and still wants to try it. I am aware that I am most likely blowing things up when it comes to drinking in general and why I dislike it so much, but I just can't get this off of my mind. I just want things to be like they have always been with us. I want my idea of the perfect girl back..... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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