Mrs D Posted March 24, 2007 Share Posted March 24, 2007 We were married May 2006, just yesterday at 5AM the cycle continues...he woke me up at 5:00 in the morning to tell me that "I dont pay enough attention to him, why did he bother to come back here, I smell like another man, he hates me, I am unfaithful to him, he doesnt like me, he's not going to help me (financially or otherwise) he cant stand being with me. He doesnt love me. I deserve to suffer and I he wants to see me lose everything and suffer" So, I say, if that is how you feel, why don't you leave. Then when I say that, he gets out of control angry. Once last summer, I called the cops. This is not the first, but the 8th time this has happened. Every 5 or six weeks, he does the SAME THING. I ask him if he really feels that way and he says, Yes. I say, if you feel that way, then why did you come here? LEAVE. Then I ask him to leave, he leaves, goes sleep in the woods, a friends, a camper, a tent, ...last time he was gone for 3 weeks and got an apartment. He'll be gone a few hours, minutes, or days and he'll start calling me and telling me he's sorry and he loves me, and he's just calling to "see how I am". Last time, (in February) he showed up at my house to say he missed me and came back every night until the blow up yesterday morning. I dont understand this. I love this man. I dont understand how someone could say they are my best friend one minute and then say hateful things the next. I dont know what to do. A pyschiatrist said I am perfectly ok and that she was close to "admitting him." He stopped going to the psychiatrist when she suggested medication for him, but since he has changed for the better A LOT....we were actually communicating (so I thought.) I cant stop loving him and he always PULLS THIS ON ME. What to do? How do I get this to stop? Do I have to break up with him forever? I am NOT CHEATING ON HIM. I love him. He just doesnt get it. The cycle continues, but I need to stop it, my heart is breaking and I am losing all self worth. I am a terrible role model for my children (not his.) I need to break my addiction to HIM and never forgive him and MOVE ON but I dont know how to do this. I dont know how to forget him even though I know he will not change. I have to change. I have to move on. Can anybody give me an idea of how to handle this. He has already started to call to say he's sorry. I did not respond. Link to comment
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