Little Girls' intuition.

[Byron1979]

Well my first post on here was about a crush I have on a girl at work. Honestly, I don't know what gets some people so hung up on others, but I am inexplicably hung up on her. Lately, we haven't talked much at all. I even try to avoid her at work. I have been talking to my therapist about this. I have also been talking about something else. It is somewhat related. I work as a temp in a Human Services office. She is a program specialist. The Program Specialists have to interview people for their benefits, Food Stamps, Medicaid, etc. Some of these people bring their kids in. There were a number of times I was doing work in the area and there would be people would be in her office who would have a little girl. The little girl seemed to take a liking to me. She smiled at me and talked to me and made faces at me. My workplace crush saw this and thought it was funny in a cute way. There were times where this would happen subsequently and she noticed. She said "Those little girls seem to love you." I told my therapist about this and she said that little girls in particular are intuitive in that they can see what kind of person you really are. I wonder if that's true.

 

As for dealing with my crush, I am trying. Trying to just live my life. Started talking to another girl via email. She said that we should get together and do karaoke sometime. I'm going to tell her that sounds cool. I figure it might be cool to have a girl just to pal around with and hang out with.

 

Boy, I'm screwed up.

[HopelesslyLovely]

I don't understand why if you're so "hung up" on this woman at work you wouldn't go for it with her. Ultimately who you choose is 100% your choice, but if there is obvious attraction between you two, you should at least give it a chance before dismissing her as you sound to be doing. This doesn't mean you can't meet the other woman too, though.

[Byron1979]

I don't understand why if you're so "hung up" on this woman at work you wouldn't go for it with her. Ultimately who you choose is 100% your choice, but if there is obvious attraction between you two, you should at least give it a chance before dismissing her as you sound to be doing. This doesn't mean you can't meet the other woman too, though.

I know. It's just there is so much hot/cold that I get thrown. Lately it's just been more cold. I feel that I see some signs of warmth between us, but then I feel her pull away. Or maybe I pull away because I don't feel worthy. I am going through that with my therapist as well.

[HopelesslyLovely]

I suspect your therapist can give better advice than I, but could it be that you fear rejection? It sounds like you don't know whether or not she is interested, and have pulled away in an attempt to figure things out. Maybe this has made things more "cold" with her. Put yourself in her shoes; if she felt some "warmth" from you, but then it began to "cool," what would she be left to do, other than let things "cool down." I suggest you "heat," things up again! Unless there's a policy against relationships between work peers, I don't see why you could not ask her out. Make it something casual, get some burgers after work "spontaneously." Don't let it "cool down."

[Byron1979]

I suspect your therapist can give better advice than I, but could it be that you fear rejection? It sounds like you don't know whether or not she is interested, and have pulled away in an attempt to figure things out. Maybe this has made things more "cold" with her. Put yourself in her shoes; if she felt some "warmth" from you, but then it began to "cool," what would she be left to do, other than let things "cool down." I suggest you "heat," things up again! Unless there's a policy against relationships between work peers, I don't see why you could not ask her out. Make it something casual, get some burgers after work "spontaneously." Don't let it "cool down."

I don't want to let it cool down. But I want to feel worthy of her. Or of any woman I date. I'm not sure that I do. I have noticed that she has seemed extremely busy and that contributed. The other thing is, you are right. I fear rejection. But I feel her pull away some too.

[Byron1979]

The other thing is, I wonder if things were really hot to begin with or if it was just wishful thinking on my part.

[ghost69]

my buddies little girls always want to be my friend and talk to me whenever i go over there. my ex thought it was hilarious.