fellyfell Posted March 23, 2007 Share Posted March 23, 2007 I'm glad I found this forum!!!!!!!! I've been reading so many post and all the great advice from the people who actually care about others. I'm hoping that you can help me with my dilemma. Here is my story, I met my ex 5yrs ago, she was coming out of a marriage of 5yrs from a husband that had cheated on her once and caused her many trust and insecurity issues. From this marriage she has 2 young boys now ages 10 and 8. When I met my ex she had stated to me that after he had cheated she lost love for him and they separted for a year but got back together for the boys but eventually came to realize she was there only for the boys not because of love. We met during this time and she quickly got attached to me. I had been previously married but divorced at the time for 4yrs now in which that marriage produced 1 daughter. So, she ended up leaving her husband and filed for divorced and we began dating exclusively. During this time we got engaged and had a child together (a girl) after about 2yrs of dating. My previous marriage from years ago never was an issue because I didnt know where my ex wife was or my daughter (long story!!!) So during our relationship with my ex-fiance' we had many ups and downs, her insecuriites, trust issues etc.. eventually it drove us apart but I kept hanging on and talking her out of letting go and ending things and we'd stay together. I grew very attached to my daughter and her two boys. This past christmas my ex-wife from years ago popped up with my daughter who I hadnt seen in years, my family has always gotten a long with her and they invited her to my parents house for xmas so we could all visit including my fiance and our kids. My fiance' seemed a bit on the edge but never said anything about it, nor did she display any anger, she said she was happy that I got to see my daughter after all this time but I knew how jealous my fiance was too. I knew that it had to bother her that my exwife got a long so good with my parents and siblings. Well a month later, (jan. 2007) she out of the blue said she got tired of our relationship and didnt want to try anymore and got tired of us and waiting to get married and for me to show her love, oh and also the great old line "I love you but I'm not in love with you". It's been just about 2 months since we've split. I haven't spoken to her in 3 weeks and I've had every thought play into my head. I've recently heard but I dont know if it's true that she's gotten back together with her ex-husband. I keep in touch with both daughters (the previous marriage and my most recent daughter) but I do not talk to my ex-fiance. I dont know how much of that is true but I can almost be certain that could be the case. What is your opions on my situation and how logical is that for her to try and rekindle her previous marriage????? I do love her and miss her but she's always been the type to over react and make life altering decisions because she's mad, hurt, angry, resentful or whatever. She most definitely will not admit she made a mistake either. She'd rather die first than to say sorry or to try and reconcile. Any opinions or advice??? Thank you Felly Link to comment
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