Friends with ex's brother

[bar35]

I am friends with my ex's brother and I was over at his house last night where I saw photos of my ex all over the place and it made me nuts. I always want to ask him "how is she doing?" "What is she up to?" all the questions that i don't need to know the answers to because they will just hurt me more and more.

 

I am freaking out inside.

[robowarrior]

Right, so why you go ripping old wounds open by going to his house? If anything avoid anything that has to do with the ex.

[bar35]

I don't know. I just messed up again and went to her myspace page.

[Jetta]

Maybe you're applying to much pressure to yourself. Now you can be friends with her brother, but maybe avoid the house for a while. So you looked at the myspace page. Is it helping you to know what she's up to? Some people heal by having contact, others heal by not having contact. What works best for you?

[lady00]

Maybe you're hanging out with him too much. I think maybe you should hang out with him less and more with your other friends and then when you have had time to heal you can gradually hang out with him more.

[bar35]

I don't think that i could heal if i had contact with her, but i believe that i am putting too much pressure on myself. i am really trying to just concentrate on the thought that there is more to my life than this one person. My self belief is on the rocks, but i am going to do what i need to do...I hope.