skyblue1 Posted March 18, 2007 Share Posted March 18, 2007 Hello everyone, It was my friends birthday yesterday, we had set plans to go to a really nice classy club, but things didn't go to plan because we ended up going to the club late bouncers wouldn't let us in. So we ended up going to this horrible club where they played gangster music like hip pop and people were so rude there. I hated it the people and the music i didn't end up dancing all night because i felt out of place was well dressed while everyone in the club dressed like tramps. Would get upset with your friend if she/he didn't join in? Link to comment
Stu147 Posted March 18, 2007 Share Posted March 18, 2007 Hello everyone, It was my friends birthday yesterday, we had set plans to go to a really nice classy club, but things didn't go to plan because we ended up going to the club late bouncers wouldn't let us in. So we ended up going to this horrible club where they played gangster music like hip pop and people were so rude there. I hated it the people and the music i didn't end up dancing all night because i felt out of place was well dressed while everyone in the club dressed like tramps. Would get upset with your friend if she/he didn't join in? Hi Sky It was your friend's birthday and unfortunately things didn't go to plan by the sounds of it. So you ended up in some less than favourable club but your friend obviously had the intention of trying to make the best of a bad night. You clearly felt that you didn't fit in there, but did you at least try to have a good time? Or were you a little moody and uncooperative? I think that is the key to whether your friend has anything to be upset with you about. It was your friend's night, and you should have done your best to make it a good night for her, even against the adversity of the last minute change of plans. I'm sure your friend found the situation less than ideal too. You are not a bad person, the fact that you care enough to ask is testament to that. At worst it could be said that you acted a little selfishly. But that would be a big assertion for me to make because I wasn't there. If you think that things need smoothing over then why not ring your friend and arrange to take them out for a nice lunch or something. Give them a little treat and if you feel you need to apologise for your behaviour then don't be too proud to do so. Good friends are hard to find, so always go that extra mile for them. I wish you all the best, and take care.... Link to comment
skyblue1 Posted March 18, 2007 Author Share Posted March 18, 2007 Yes i was a little moody I did danced with her a few times though. Texted her when i got home and said sorry for things going wrong, i even said i'd make it up to her and take her somewhere nice. When it was my birthday she was very moody to me which was really annoying, didn't speak to be much or bother with me really. I just hated this place we went to was very scard actually people look rough and trouble makers. Tried calling her twice and she hasn't responsed Link to comment
Honey Pumpkin Posted March 18, 2007 Share Posted March 18, 2007 I can see how it might have not been your night - but I agree with superior, it's best to make the best you can of it. Sometimes when I'm having a horrible time, I fake it (socially!), because you can turn it into a good time if you try hard enough. I would have been pretty hurt if I'd been your friend, to be honest. I mean, I know you were all dressed up, but it does sound a bit like you sat in the corner looking down on everyone. I'm sure it wasn't that bad though. Write to your friend - tell her that you were a bit off, that it wasn't your kind of place, and you had a headache/were coming down with something, and say you'd like to make it up to her. Do a bit of grovelling!!! Cheers. Link to comment
itsallgrand Posted March 18, 2007 Share Posted March 18, 2007 Yeah, honestly, I might be a bit put off as a friend. But! A simple, genuine apology would be more than enough for something like that. We all have nights or situations where we are off. The thing is, since it was her bday, it might be best to avoid mentioning more about you. I mean, keep the details down about how uncomfy you were and all that. I'm sure she got that message loud n' clear already. An apology and leave it at that. IMO. Now yall are 'even' - you both know how it feels to have each other be moody during important days. Hehee. Was the club that bad? Friends of mine have dragged me to some super questionable (dangerous!) bars. I can understand the difference in demeanor and attitude (ok, I'll make the best of this vs. Oh My god, why aren't we leaving?!). Link to comment
Beyondthesea Posted March 18, 2007 Share Posted March 18, 2007 If it was me I wouldn't be upset and would just let it slide. Still, it was her birthday and she's probably a bit hurt, just as you were. I agree...just apologize and make it up by going out somewhere later Link to comment
skyblue1 Posted March 18, 2007 Author Share Posted March 18, 2007 well she is ignoring me at the moment so not going to contact her anymore. I have told her i will make it up to her by taking her somewhere nice. Link to comment
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