I'm stupid

[Dougie_D]

I think I know why I have never had a girlfriend. I say the most inapproipiate things.

I fart in front of people and I just don't care.

I just say what ever I want to.

Apparently I don't have that "block" in my head. The "block" that say what to say and what not to say.

I'm screwed.

I need some drugs or therapy.

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[Creamybutter]

No, u just need some mental discipline. Start by thinking first and then talking.

It takes time and practice.

[musicguy]

Maybe you should change the way you act around people. There's nothing more unattractive than a person who's rude or being inapproprate in front of people (with friends it's okay) but in public, that's bad.

[Shiva 2007]

or maybe start reading books on appropriate behaviors in public (one of those dos and dont's) or look up ms manners, you'll probably get a kick out of her but it might spark some insight, who knows

[Siriana]

I think I know why I have never had a girlfriend. I say the most inapproipiate things.

I fart in front of people and I just don't care.

I just say what ever I want to.

Apparently I don't have that "block" in my head. The "block" that say what to say and what not to say.

I'm screwed.

I need some drugs or therapy.

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Put some effort in your behaviour.

You're not stupid or screwed.

Nice manners are something you learn.

[annie24]

maybe it would be good to sign up for some "charm school" classes or something. You know, learn how to have a polite conversation, how not to burp at the dinner table. learn appropriate topics to talk about with a stranger, etc.....

[Shiva 2007]

DD I hope you have read some of the suggestions there are some great one's here. Annie24 are there really such classes? seriously?, I would recommend them to a couple of people if you could direct me

[annie24]

Of course there are such classes. I just don't know how to find one in the phone book

 

Did you watch the "borat" movie? He goes to that southern etiquette school lady and makes a total fool out of her and the other dinner guests.

[Shiva 2007]

no I am ashamed to admit I haven't been at the movies for a while, that's a shame because I loove movies. Was that good? maybe I'll rent it

[annie24]

yes, it's a good movie, do rent it. And if anyone has seen it, could you tell us the title of the woman in that movie? I bet that would help trying to figure out how to find "charm classes".

[Shiva 2007]

thanks Annie

[galaxy71]

maybe it would be good to sign up for some "charm school" classes or something. You know, learn how to have a polite conversation, how not to burp at the dinner table. learn appropriate topics to talk about with a stranger, etc.....

 

I know some classes that teach social skills. They charge between $1000 to $2000. The classes only last three days and two nights. Not only do they teach basic social skills, but they teach guys how to interact with women that they find attractive. The classes are taught by guys who are successful with women. There is a seminar portion to the class where the instructor spends hours discussing flirting, body language, touching, icebreakers, rapport, and getting a date. At the end of the lecture, the students go to a bar or nightclub to pick women up. There is an instructor in the background who correct the students whenever the student interacts with a women in the venue.

 

This is going to be out of the market range for most guys though. For an alternative, the OP could try to find some adult education classes through sources like the Learning Annex. In my city, they had a couple of classes on conversational skills and flirtation. The down side is the fact that a lot of these adult education classes get cancelled all the time due to lack of interest and underenrollment.

 

I attended this one class on coversation at the Learning Annex. The class cost only $50. I thought the instructor did a decent job discussing conversation and body language. There were a few exercises where the students interacted with each other in order to sharpen up their conversational skills. The downside of the class was the fact that the class was only three hours. At the second half of the class, I thought the instructor went too quickly and covered a little too much material. I also felt her advice was more applicable toward making friends and selling a product versus attracting and flirting with a potential romantic partner.

 

To the OP: I also think that you can improve your social skills by observing confident men who have plenty of friends and a lot of female attention. You can learn a lot about what to say and how to say it. You don't have to meet the guys in real life. You should also pay a lot of attention to the guys in the internet forums who have a lot of success in their social life.

[Shiva 2007]

good point galaxi71, well put, lots of great advice in that

[musicguy]

where do I sign up for classes lol. In my case. I have no problems talking to girls, it's my own confidence that kills me

[annie24]

where do I sign up for classes lol. In my case. I have no problems talking to girls, it's my own confidence that kills me

 

It's like that quote goes, "If you don't believe in yourself, no one else will." Confidence is so important.

[musicguy]

Do they have confidence courses?

[galaxy71]

Do they have confidence courses?

 

Yes, they have confidence courses. You better pay up big time. Tony Robbins, the famous motivational speaker charges $895 for his seminar. Christopher Howard, one of his competitors offers a similar price. I attended a Tony Robbin's mini-workshop for $50 when I attended this Learning Annex real estate expo in Los Angeles. Tony Robbins used a lot of exercises showing how our emotional states are caused by our physiology and focus. Some of the exercises he had us do was having us high-five the people sitting around us. There were other exercises where everyone was supposed to scream in joy. I thought it was a great experience, since I finally got to see the famous Tony Robbins in action. The guy was a great speaker and a great storyteller. He always had something to funny to say.

Rating:9/10

 

I can't say the same for Christopher Howard. While attending this retreat, I got to sample Christopher Howard's teachings for free. The guy looked like a used-car salesman. Rather than teaching us how to improve our emotional states through simple things as smiling, he spent a little too much time on hypnosis. There were several hypnotic excercises that were just plain corny. The man did not have the wit or humor of Tony Robbins.

Rating:6/10

[Leonhart]

Yes, they have confidence courses. You better pay up big time. Tony Robbins, the famous motivational speaker charges $895 for his seminar. Christopher Howard, one of his competitors offers a similar price. I attended a Tony Robbin's mini-workshop for $50 when I attended this Learning Annex real estate expo in Los Angeles. Tony Robbins used a lot of exercises showing how our emotional states are caused by our physiology and focus. Some of the exercises he had us do was having us high-five the people sitting around us. There were other exercises where everyone was supposed to scream in joy. I thought it was a great experience, since I finally got to see the famous Tony Robbins in action. The guy was a great speaker and a great storyteller. He always had something to funny to say.

Rating:9/10

 

Damn, that's some expensive confidence!

 

No wonder why people just drink. It's cheaper. lol

[musicguy]

lol. I don't have that much for confidence...I'm a cheap date

[galaxy71]

Damn, that's some expensive confidence!

 

No wonder why people just drink. It's cheaper. lol

 

I don't like the idea of spending that much money learning confidence. There are tons of books, and cds out there that talk about improving one's self-esteem and confidence. You can easily obtain such materials at the local, public library for free.

 

However, the same cannot be said for books, and cds on social skills. The supply for good, quality material on social skills is pretty small. The only good books, cds, and workshops on social skills are extremely expensive. If you try to check out a book on social skills at the public library, you going to be sorely disappointed. Most of the cheaper books on social skills regurgitate material that is pretty common sense. You get what you pay for.

[Dougie_D]

yeah! Thanks for comments...this rambling is really helping me out!

Thanks ---

[IronChef]

You need to hang around people who won't take that kind of weirdness from people. Like they'll tell you to get lost the instant you do it. You'll learn to behave pretty quickly around those kinds of people.