2 diff. inputs, 1 mixed up mind

[hutch007]

hey, ill get straight to the point. I am deeply worried that a girl of mine has been leading me on tremendously. We have been doing just about everything but actual sex, and i thought we are very happy. then last monday i made a mistake and she was mad at me, and as girls do, she got her reind at me (who is also an ex of mine) so now, the next day we talk and shes not mad anymore but says she wants to cool down a little bit on the sexual actions and stuff (i said thats fine and i always gave her the option of not doing anything, i never pushed her to do anything) and so i talked to her almost every night on the phone, ive helped her through alot of emotional issues and such and last night she says she really likes me still and wants to be with me. NOW what im mixed up and afriad about is my ex (her friend) talked to me today and says that i should just leave her alone and not talk to her, not see her, not come in any contact with her what so ever. she says that she has never really wanted to be with me and doesnt want to be with me, but she is saposedly staying with me because she just cant be honest with guys and so forth. (i let you know the last time my ex and her talked were last wed. when she was still a lil upset) idk what to make of this

 

 

please help?

[BeStrongBeHappy]

don't immediately accept what your ex says about your new girl, because your ex may be jealous or have other motives.

 

you should talk directly to your girl and ask her direct questions to try to get the answers from her that you need. getting 3rd parties like friends and exes involved always confuses things.

[Ferion]

He's right. You feel this is a topic worth bringing up, then bring it up with your girlfriend. If you don't..it can only worsen the situation.

[hutch007]

i have brought it up when i talked to her yesterday too (it was a similary situation) and she said she stil loved me, so im trying not to wrry, but just the fact that she said "she wouldnt be able to tell me the truth" is what bbothers me. But thank you guys

[cantexplain]

Ahh - sounds like a mostly normal dating dance - except the ex is involved.

 

That's what sounds most uncool to me.

 

I say get the ex out of the picture, give the new girlfriend the room she needs. Finally keep the interest in gear, if that's what YOU feel. And Ferion's and BeStrong's advice sounds like a good part of your mix of continuing this new romantic chase to its own natural end.

 

Keep us posted!

[cantexplain]

Ooh, I have a question. Do you think the ex still being around in some way could be causing your new interest's hesitation?

[hutch007]

idk if it does, i onl went out with my ex for a week and such, idk why shes being such a loser about, btu i did talk to tonight and turns out that my ex is being a B**** and me and my girl r on good terms now, she just has alot on her mind and wants to slow down a bit BUT thank you everyone for helping me!!!!!!