He went in a bit

[nadine_3110]

So my bf and I were fooling around last night, just the normal stuff, dry humping and what not, we don't have sex yet. So what we usually do is he keeps his boxers on and I don't have anything on and we rub against each other. But this time, as we were doing that, he stopped and looked at me weird. I felt his down there and his penis was sticking out of his boxers and he said that he went in. But I didn't really feel it go in there, so obviously it didn't go in that much.

 

But it really scared me, I'm a virgin, he isn't and he knows how important that is to me. But I'm just paranoid about a) having lost me virginity (if it counts cus he just touched the outside) and b) getting pre-cum in there and being pregnant.

 

I guess what I'm really looking for is reassurance. And he tried to keep going, making sure I was ok, but I said no, I felt violated. Same with this morning when he tried to fool around with me again.

[BetterKarma]

No, you have not lost your virginity and yes, you could get pregnant with pre-cum however, the percentage is very low.

 

Relax for now and make sure you use a condom everytime, even if you are just "dry humping." You never know what will happen and it's better safe than sorry.

[Hope75]

Hi Nadine,

 

It doesn't sound like he actually penetrated you, especially if you are a virgin and you didn't feel anything. I think you are safe in that department. I understand that you want to protect your virginity, but if you are going to be rubbing genitals on each other, a condom is still a good idea. It's not likely that you would get pregnant that way- (did he even come while he was near your vagina?), but STI's can still be passed by genital to genital contact- and especially where your boyfriend has had sex before, that puts you at risk for STI's.

 

I would be sure for future contact like this you have him wear a condom, and he should also be tested for STI's, as should you if you have had similar contact with other boyfriends in the past.

 

Good Luck!

[nadine_3110]

He's my first bf so no chance of me having STIs. He's slept with two girls and we've been going out for almost a year, so he hasn't had sex for like a year and a half. So I doubt that he has anything either. But I guess you never know. I'll ask him to put a condom next time, though I wouldn't even know how to put it on him ! lol

[pesh]

In my opinion, you did not lose your virginity. Your virginity is something that ou willingly give away, and in this case it was purely accidental that his penis went in a little bit. Some may argue that you have lost your virginity, but you should make your own decision about it.

 

I have also read that dry humping can result in pregnancy if any semen comes in contact with the vaginal opening. Now, I am as surprised as you probably are to hear this, and I started freaking out because a few days prior to reading that, my boyfriend and I had been dry humping- fully clothed (i had on underwear, and sweatpants, and he had his boxers on) but when he came, it seemed that he might have wet through my pants. So I immediately started freaking out that I had a chance to be pregnant. However, I think its highly improbable, since the sperm would have to get through 3 layers of clothing. I don't want to freak out like that ever again, and I learned my lesson and next time will insist that he also wear pants too. I wouldn't risk that small minute chance of preganancy for a bit of added pleasure.

[Hope75]

He's my first bf so no chance of me having STIs. He's slept with two girls and we've been going out for almost a year, so he hasn't had sex for like a year and a half. So I doubt that he has anything either. But I guess you never know. I'll ask him to put a condom next time, though I wouldn't even know how to put it on him ! lol

 

There are quite a few STI's who have few to no symptoms in men- but can still transmit to women and have devestating effects- so just because he "seems OK" or "looks clean" or has no symptoms, doesn't mean that he does not have an STI. Many men carry an STI or two and don't even know they have it- because they have no symptoms, and then pass them on to others unknowingly. The only way to know for sure is for him to get tested. Many of them can be treated once detected. And if you have had genital to genital contact with him with no condoms, there is a chance that you could have also contracted an STI.

 

Just some important things for you to know if you are having intimate contact with him and don't know his STI status.