Why do I keep doing this to myself?!

[jorgehorge23]

Its always been the same. I have a gut feeling a girl is interested and we flirt a lot (smiling, long eye contact, touching-the girl touches me) yet I constantly find myself looking for an excuse that she is not interested. Of course gut feelings can be wrong as I learned. I asked a girl out a couple months ago cause she was giving me positive signs but I found out eventually that she had a BF but she told me that she would have (could be true or not..and this has been an issue cuase I dont know if I can trust my instincts or not).

 

Now there's this girl that has been flirting and I like her. I smile back when she smiles, a lot of eye contact, we talk and joke around. She touches me and I want to reciprocate but I don't know how (I want to touch back but I'm afraid its inappropriate). I'm starting to get the feeling that if I don't up my game, I could lose her interest. I plan to ask her out sometime but for now I have a very strong reason not to. How can I show her I like her a lot and keep her interest until I can ask her out (I can do it in 2 months)?

[vagrant]

Why wait to ask her out? What's the point in that?

[jorgehorge23]

cuz I have to work with her and it would be awkward working with her if she says no. (its really more complicated but just take it as it is). I really do plan to ask her out in the end when I can... I just need to let her know im really interested and keep her interested for 2 months until I can ask her out.

[Locke2121]

Its going to be even more awkward if you hold all these feelings inside. Just ask her out for coffee or lunch.

 

Stringing someone along for 2 months is the craziest thing! You think she is going to wait that long while you get enough courage to ask her? Heck no, she's going to wait only long enough for a confident man to come along! Ask her now or forget it!

[Karhu]

exactly, take a leap of faith. show you're confident.

how does 2 months relate to the work place? is she/you going to relocate jobs in 2 months so you wouldent be in the same work place?

if it is a professional work place then there can be issues with dating someone at work, if it is a non-profesisonal place then that is of no concern.

[jorgehorge23]

yes, its a professional workplace which makes it hard and she is a rank above me so it makes its even more complicated but im moving to another facility in 2 months so I can do whatever i need to do after.

[Altruist]

If she's touching you, reciprocate man. And what are you waiting for? Ask her out!

[Leonhart]

Yeah, I've made that mistake before, too - don't wait. If you do, I can almost guarantee she'll shoot you down later. I've waited a couple months before doing anything, when I perceived interest, naturally, when I finally did something I got nowhere. It's possible they were never interested in the first place - you can never know - but asking sooner would have spared me some pain.

[galaxy71]

You have to make a choice about whether you want to ask her out NOW. If you wait to long, she will lose interest. I remember one time when this introverted woman ran up to me and started asking me all these questions about myself. She was laughing and smiling when she was talking to me. The woman suggested that we exchange phone numbers. Instead of asking her right away, I waited two whole weeks to call her. Not only did she lose interest, but she stopped hanging out with my friends.

 

Since she was extremely attractive, she didn't have any problems finding some other guy to spend her time with. You don't want to make the same mistake I made. You need to make your decision now. If you do not show interest, she might become devastated and lose interest. Attractive women are not used to getting rejected.

[ghost69]

the first line. you have always had a gut feeling. no idea what you are waiting for.