"You deserve better one", isn't it ironic

[distroyed one]

When people say to someone who has been cheated or dumped " Oh, you deserve better one" it seems so strange to me.. We never find that better one it seems, like it's some kind of pattern we will again find someone to torture us.. We, humiliated ones deserve better relationships indeed, but how many find them after all those pain? I think that careless people without emotions always find someone who is totaly oposit to them.. They feed their patetic life with our love and care.. Worse caracter then ours wouldn't let them do what they did to us.. I've seen milion of examples when people take back the one that cheated on them, the one that left them.. What is so self destructive in human nature? And opposite, you've noticed that you just can't get rid of people that you treat roughly, that you don't like.. They found it attractive, like some kind of chalenge.. Showing your emotions seems to be weakness, acting not interested makes you attract views.. People distroy the ones that give them love, they love the ones that take their peace of mind.. No hope for happiness..

[willow2900]

The only common link between who you let in your life, who continually hurts you, who gives you pain and grief is YOU.

 

You are the only one who can break the cycle, change the habit. It you want change, make it happen for you. If not, the same pattern repeats until you learn the lesson.

[Scotcha]

Only one relationship in your lifetime will ever be lasting. Every other relationship you have before you find it will fail. Keep learning rather than becoming bitter. Bitterness will hinder finding what you are looking for. There's hope, just don't give up.

[willow2900]

You said it willow! I just ended a vicous cycle with someone who I kept going back to again and again knowing full well she was the wrong person for me! Why? Because it was easy! Because I didn't do what I finally did when I ended it for good almost three weeks ago, I realized that I needed to stop pleasing someone who simply would never be pleased. I decided I deserved better! I took care of ME, because in the end, what matters most is that we take care of ourselves. I rid of myself of someone who was toxic, who was sucking the life out of me and was only interested in what I could do for them.

 

Congrats Dan! That is awesome! It's a hard pill to swallow, but sometimes it needs to be done. I have been through the same thing. I kept wondering why I was allowing myself to be used again and again. When I realized that is was me who was allowing this, I just stopped. I love my ex still. I will always care for him. But he used me. It was emotionally draining. I was depressed, and now I can look back and see that. I need someone who can complement me instead of draining me. It's sometimes hard to be that self-relective on your own actions and behaviours but it can also be very liberating.

 

You do have the power to change. You control the happiness that you allow in. You deserve that happiness and should settle for nothing less!

[willow2900]

Even the cat is happier.....

 

That's hilarious! Gotta keep the pets happy!

[terk2021]

There is some truth in what you are saying, but you have to remember that each closed door can lead to a better and brighter one. There is nothing wrong with having anger or being hurt after someone you love with all of your heart walks all over you. Each relationship is unique, and each person is unique. I went through the worst breakup of my life last year, and had so much resentment towards my ex. I felt everything you wrote above, and more. The truth is though, I am the one that will ultimately be happy, because I will find someone that I love, and deserves my love, and will love me as much in return. I feel blessed each day she is no longer in my life, because I know she is not capable of feeling that level of love. I am sorry you have been hurt. I think most of us that have found this site have found it for support. It's great also to come out here and help support others.

 

I can't say I am the biggest country music fan, but find the song by Rascal Flats "God Blessed the Broken Road". What a true song.

 

Terk

[Wotgorilla]

That's hilarious! Gotta keep the pets happy!

 

So true too. He's an amazing judge of character.