why are guys so mean after you breakup?

[SeaBisquit]

omg, i can't believe i did this. i got into a huge fight with him in the grocery store in front of everyone. i haven't seen him for about three weeks, and he really dumped me good. anyways i was walking down to the store with a friend and i saw him driving down the road and i knew that he knew where i was going. i got to the store and he was already there. so i thought this might be a good time to talk to him. i saw him leaving the store so i went out behind him and i was like we need to talk. he said he was in a hurry and couldn't talk. i told him that's what he always says.

 

so i walked up to his truck and said i don't care were talking. i told him why won't you even look at me. he said i saw you. so i said so what are you happy with your knew life now? he said yeah. then i said it's over with us isn't it? he yep. then isaid thanks, thanks alot for treating me the way you did. he slammed the door on me and i flipped him off and starting screaming at him. he took off down the road and i was still flipping him off. i don't get why i was so mad at him.

[freeindeed]

I think he needs his space, and you totally violated that by going up to his car and demanding that he speak to you. I don't think he's being mean, he's probably just trying to move on.

[answersguy]

It sounds to me like you're the one with the problem and you're the one being mean. He's calm and trying to move on. Is there more to this story than what you wrote?

[SeaBisquit]

yes a whole lot more.

[answersguy]

Well... if the post is about guys being mean, why not write about something related to that? From what I've read so far, he really hasn't done anything wrong.

[SeaBisquit]

he screwed his ex behind my back. while telling me all the time how much he didn't like her. now he is back with her but wants me on the side.

[darkpumpkin]

I can see where you would be mad. And I can see why he did what he did. But as much as you are mad you have to realize that someone like that doesn't deserve to even be yelled at. In fact he doesn't deserve any of your time. I would next time you see him just ignore him completely and act happy.

[Jayar]

He may have been a jerk to you during your relationship, but he's not your concern now (and vice versa). Move on. It's broken. Don't waste time being upset. Best of luck!

[answersguy]

His loss jayceearia... Forget about him and go find someone else.

[rose2summer]

He was dishonest by seeing his ex while with you.

 

Although it's wrong, it's best for your own health and well-being to avoid all contact with him.

 

Trying to give him "words" is just going to traumatize you right now.

 

He isn't even worth your breath, your time, your thoughts, he is a cheater, and someone you don't need in your life.

 

As much as it seems unbelievable, you will be amazed at how you will heal and realize how finding out his cheating habits was a blessing in disguise.

 

Hugs, Rose

[TheFoglifter]

You sound like an extremely wonderful girl and I'm sorry you had to go through such a horrible experience.

 

I do believe as others have said that you violated his space by essentially forcing a confrontation. Then again, if he was screwing his ex behind your back, just be thankful you are rid of him. He is her problem now.

 

Time will heal it.

[ghost69]

he wants you on the side? what you described at the store doesn't sound that way.