i just dont get it, why is he doing this?

[HDD]

okay, so my ex is out of the country and he called me yesterday (international call) and wanted to talk!!! I didnt know he called cause i had my cell phone turned off, anyways, i wasnt expecting him to call at all. but he left a pretty long voicemessage telling me what he is up to, how he wished i answered my phone, i love you, etc etc cant even remember the rest. he sounded pretty depressed actually. i was thinking to myself "what the hell are you thinking? why are you calling me? call the freaking new girl (which I am sure he did)!!!" i was almost ready to slam the phone towards the wall, but instead i just laughed out loud and couldnt believe him... amazing!

what is he doing? i know i told him that he could call me whenever (not anymore), but not when he is seeing someone, i mean, at least have the decency and be honest with yourself.

[finewhine]

He probably doesn't know what he's doing, either. Be glad you got rid of him.

[adahy]

He was probably drunk. If not, it gets lonely in a foreign environment...one tends to reflect on the homefront. Anyway, keep laughing about it...sounds like you're good to get rid of him.

[HDD]

he didnt sound drunk, he was never a big drinker, he actually sounded upset bc i didnt answer, as in sad.

i sure hope he figures things out, sounds like he is not doing the healthy things one should do to heal from a break up. we shared an amazing 6 years together and it hurts to see this end but its out of my control.

[finewhine]

Worry about YOURSELF. Yeah, he's not doing well - neither are you. You have to focus on yourself in order to heal.

[Me and myself]

HDD, don't try to understand what's in his mind. Don't make any judgements about what he's doing. Let him go through his own healing process...if he feels lonely in a foreign country, so let him be....as you said, he has another person to call to and you must believe that this other person is part of the process. Let him be...