Sxc_Gobby_Lil_Gal Posted March 13, 2007 Share Posted March 13, 2007 This is the first time i have felt like this about someone, and he says he feeld the same about me. i really like him, but all my mates think that its wrong as hes 20 and im only 15 (16 in september.) we talk mostly every night on line, and most of are convos are sex related, and desscussing wat we are going to do with each other, i really like talking to him, he makes me feel so special. and we both want to be togther but we cant coz there would be to many problems and i dont know wat to do! Link to comment
flower99 Posted March 13, 2007 Share Posted March 13, 2007 Can I ask. have you met him before? or is this strickly online dating? Link to comment
Sxc_Gobby_Lil_Gal Posted March 13, 2007 Author Share Posted March 13, 2007 ive met him but that was a in december, we keep trying to meet up but my parents are so over pretective of me, he rings me everyday on my mob to talk and we talk online most nights Link to comment
Satsuma Posted March 13, 2007 Share Posted March 13, 2007 I can understand why your parents are protective of you, i would be. Especially when whenever you talk its mostly about sex, i must say that isnt a good sign. How does he make you feel special? Is it only because he talks to you about doing things with you. Personally i wouldnt talk about sex with him and wouldnt go out with him because it doesnt seem right. You even said there would be too many problems involved so do you really want to get into a relationship which already has problems? Link to comment
Sxc_Gobby_Lil_Gal Posted March 13, 2007 Author Share Posted March 13, 2007 i supose thats a good point, i mean we do talk bout other things besides sex and he make me feel specail, coz like if im down hes cheers me up and is such a good mate, my parents dont know what i talk to him about, they have just always been over pretective of me thats what im like, its mainyl coz im thier youngest child, and the main problems are we wouldnt see enough of each other, and my parents, and we would at first have to keep it a secret coz of my age and things Link to comment
Satsuma Posted March 13, 2007 Share Posted March 13, 2007 Well you should never keep a relationship a secret because thats only asking for trouble. I think its good of your parents to be looking out for you because imagine your daughter was doing all this stuff with a 20 year old or older, feels umcomfortable doesnt it? So just think what it would be like to be the parents so you can see where they are coming from. Im glad he makes you feel special but to me it seems he only does because of the sex talks. You should stop having sex conversations with him beause it doesnt seem right. Plus all this sex talk can make him think you WILL do this with him next time you meet, and that isnt good because you may not want to. Link to comment
Mythical_Suicide Posted March 13, 2007 Share Posted March 13, 2007 I agree with PP, this sounds like a problem before it even begins.. For one, depending on where you live this could be very illegal and two, you say mostly all you two talk about is sex? NEVER a good thing. I'm not judging him or saying this is him but I get this feeling he says things to make you feel "special" in hopes that he does all this and you're going to do exactly what you're doing and falling for him. In turn he has his cake and eats it too while you're left out with a broken heart. Seriously re-consider this relationship, and to make sure he's all about you how about backing off of the sex talk for awhile? If he really cares about you he won't mind and if he starts backing away and/or tries pushing you into it He isn't for you hun. You're still really young enjoy these years DONT rush it, you have many years ahead of you to be heartbroken by men and falling in love with that one special man. Link to comment
Sxc_Gobby_Lil_Gal Posted March 13, 2007 Author Share Posted March 13, 2007 he knowa what i want to do and wat i dont, all the time he says if i dont want to do something just say and we wont or we will stop, hes verry careing like that, i see wat u are saying bout having sex talks and i know they may not be good all the time considering my age, and i probably will stop talking about it all for the time, and see what happens then. i know he cares about me and wouldnt make me do anything, hes been mates with a few of my other mates that are bout 2 years above me and they say that he only eva says things he means. Im still not sure wat i excalty want, and want i want to do or anything. Link to comment
Satsuma Posted March 13, 2007 Share Posted March 13, 2007 Well because you dont know what you want i suggest you dont go further with this, take a step back for a minute and think. Think about what could go right and wrong. Because you dont want to end up doing something youll regret later in life. Link to comment
Sxc_Gobby_Lil_Gal Posted March 13, 2007 Author Share Posted March 13, 2007 yeh, i always want to be mates with him, coz hes helped me out as ive had a few problems in life at the mo, and i supose if anything happened between us and it turned out for the worse, we coz losed our friendship, u have accutaly really helped me think about this, and im hoping it will help me with the relationship Link to comment
Mythical_Suicide Posted March 13, 2007 Share Posted March 13, 2007 As I said in my other post, you're still young DONT jump into something just because you like him or because he makes you feel good especially if you have any doubts at all. It's always best to play it safe and keep a safe distance rather than falling in all at once. Besides, like I said what is the legal age where you live anyway? He could get into serious trouble for even talking about sex online with you if your parents find out. Link to comment
rocio Posted March 13, 2007 Share Posted March 13, 2007 Try to step outside of yourself and look at the situation from his perspective. Presumably he knew your age when you started chatting. That seems to suggest that he was looking for a 15 year old. Ask yourself: why would an adult go looking for a child? I know you're only 5 years apart, but at this stage in your life, it really is the difference between a kid and an adult. (I don't mean to offend you. You might be really mature. But in general, a 15 year old is NOT an adult.) Link to comment
Sxc_Gobby_Lil_Gal Posted March 13, 2007 Author Share Posted March 13, 2007 oh the legal age where i live to do anything with him is 16 so if i did anything now he would get in to trouble, but just talking bout it he wont. and its ok im not offended, i see wat u mean, lots of people say im very mature, and yeh he did know my age coz i met him through my best mate coz they are really good friends so he know how old i was, and at the time that we started talking he had a gf but he always said he had feelings for me. Link to comment
Mythical_Suicide Posted March 13, 2007 Share Posted March 13, 2007 Yes, sweety He still can get into trouble for even talking about it. Right now, by talking to you about sex he is breaking the law. Ever seen the show Perverted Justice on tv? and if your parents ever find out they can and probably will press charges on him. Link to comment
Satsuma Posted March 13, 2007 Share Posted March 13, 2007 Surely he knows he can get into trouble for it, so why is he still doing it? If he cares for both your welfare he should stop the sex talks. Link to comment
Sxc_Gobby_Lil_Gal Posted March 13, 2007 Author Share Posted March 13, 2007 omg really what even if i say that i dont want them to coz we are just mate? thats really unfair, i am 16 in september, so if i can make sure they dont find out he should be opk shouldnt he, i dont want him to get in to trouble, i care to much a bout him for him to get in trouble just for talking bout things to me and some of the things i start talking to him about. Link to comment
Satsuma Posted March 13, 2007 Share Posted March 13, 2007 Like i said he should know he can get into trouble for it but that isnt stopping him. Link to comment
Sxc_Gobby_Lil_Gal Posted March 13, 2007 Author Share Posted March 13, 2007 my mate said to me It's only illegal if it is acted apon when u are below the age of consent (age 16) were i live. i dunno i dont really know bout that sort of things Link to comment
Sxc_Gobby_Lil_Gal Posted March 13, 2007 Author Share Posted March 13, 2007 i do see where you are coming from to tho, coz we talk over the net, but i didnt met him over the net which is a good thing, i have acctauly met him before, so i do know what hes like, and would never make me do anything i dont want to do, i do thin ur right about stopping the sex talks, coz that may start giving him the wrong idea, even tho i dont it would. but i do see wat u mean Link to comment
ilovemal Posted March 13, 2007 Share Posted March 13, 2007 i totally agree with dark angel. i think you should step back and think...?"is he only communicating with you for one thing"? which im not saying he is...but he is alot older..and sweetie thats what most of them are looking for. trust me iv'e been down that path a few times...but i think yall should remain friends for the mean time Link to comment
Sxc_Gobby_Lil_Gal Posted March 13, 2007 Author Share Posted March 13, 2007 yeh we arent going to be anything more then friends at the mo anyway even tho we care loadz for each other, we agree that i should finish my studies first and see wat happens after that. i dont think he wants anything from me, well i dont think hes only looking for one thing, i do think he generly cares about me, he has told a few of my mates he does care about me. Link to comment
Sxc_Gobby_Lil_Gal Posted March 13, 2007 Author Share Posted March 13, 2007 so really wat do u think i should do about it now? Link to comment
Mythical_Suicide Posted March 13, 2007 Share Posted March 13, 2007 If he cares about you truly he will wait for you! Believe me true love CAN wait.. If y'all were meant to be together the feelings will still be there in a year or two. Link to comment
Sxc_Gobby_Lil_Gal Posted March 14, 2007 Author Share Posted March 14, 2007 thnx thats really helps alot, i know i can wait for him, and he did say he could wait for me, so i hope he truly can Link to comment
SmeS Posted March 17, 2007 Share Posted March 17, 2007 me and my gf met online when i was 19 and she 14. we fell "inlove" before i even asked her for her age. at first we didnt think it would work out because there were quite some distance between us and because of the age gap. after 6 months of online "dating" we met in real. i was accepted by her family from the first meeting so they never had anything against us being together, except her dad but she doesnt live with him and he doesnt normally care about her so it was never a problem. why dont you try to introduce him to your family and see what happens? age gap isnt a problem as long as you dont make it one. Link to comment
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