Okay, I 'm a pretty screwed up individual

[Xandero]

Hi, I'm new here, just found it through google. Maybe you kind people can help me.

 

So, I'm a pretty lonely person. Im seventeen years old and a senior in high school. I'm graduating in approximately six weeks. For a very long time, I've had this huge crush on this girl, Emily, who is a year behind me, a junior. The problem is that I am really really shy. I lack confidence in myself. Everyday I tell myself, "Just go up to her and ask her out," but I've never been able to do it. I think I'm afraid of rejection and getting hurt. The only thing resembling a relationship I ever had ended before it began, not to mention the fact that I was the kid that always got picked on in elementary school, and those self esteem issues never went away, even though that ridicule is all but gone. And it' not like I don't know her, she's not exactly a close friend, but we're smi-familiar with each other. We were in the school play together, we're both on the quizbowl team, etc. But now I'm worried that I waited too long, and even if I don't get rejected and we start dating, I'm afraid that we'll just grow apart, especially if she goes to college somewhere else.

 

So yeah, I don't even know if there's a question in there, but I'm looking for some kind of support, my friends aren't exactly the most sympathetic people in the world. But I had to get that out to someone.

[shikashika]

I would not recommend going up to a girl who you have not had many conversations with and just ask her out... most likely she will say no. Get to know her first and see if you actually want to go out with her. You say you semi know her... have you ever hung out just as aquaintances?... or friends?

I'd say thats a first step

[CynicalGuitarist]

I would not recommend going up to a girl who you have not had many conversations with and just ask her out... most likely she will say no. Get to know her first and see if you actually want to go out with her. You say you semi know her... have you ever hung out just as aquaintances?... or friends?

I'd say thats a first step

 

mm.. I agree, but if you wait too long, she'll just put you aside in the "friend" bin and you'll have no chance at all. I've screwed up in both extremes and been rejected painfully. I say do what I never did and just say "hello". You can't really control what she does next. I don't really have any better advice from here, but just don't make yourself look too obvious or you'll scare her away worse than an exorcist scares away a demonic child.

[Xandero]

Okay, last night when i posted this thread, I was freaking out a bit, I'm a little more sane now.

 

Aye, you are right, I know little about relationships, I'm just longing for love here. Thanks for your responses though, it's nice to have someone to put things into perspective, my thoughts tend to run away with me.

[ghost69]

i didn't have much for dating women skills in high school. i had my share of some hotties, but it was because i actually did make a move. don't be scared. there are a lot of women that i didn't make a move on that i kick myself for not doing. once you are out of high school, people go off to college and lose contact. you almost never see them again. try before too late.