Hayles Posted March 12, 2007 Share Posted March 12, 2007 Okay... so here it is - this is me... now guys, I want to know... would you approach me if you saw me at a club/pub, public setting somewhere - whatever - for the purposes of attraction?! May seem like an insane question but I happen to be confused.... we know whether we are/are not attractive to the opposite sex because of how people react to us/what we are told about our appearance, correct? Well, I guess many women, like myself, are told they are beautiful or whatever - and yet, I could sit at a club for 6 hours with my friends and I'd be the only one not asked for a number/dance.... I do enjoy myself and reflect that, I do not look scary/stuck up... so what is it? Is it perhaps the people telling me I am attractive just floating my boat to be nice?! Link to comment
tomb Posted March 12, 2007 Share Posted March 12, 2007 Well they're not floating your boat, and number of reasons guys wouldn't approach an attractive woman is in the millions. Link to comment
Hayles Posted March 12, 2007 Author Share Posted March 12, 2007 Are you serious?! So, guys would look at a group, say "oh, she's a hottie, but I'll pick up her friends instead?" I mean, it makes no sense to me at all..... it's one of those things us women might never understand?! Link to comment
Salucious Posted March 12, 2007 Share Posted March 12, 2007 If you see a guy you want to meet, shoot that exact expression at him. Seriously! Link to comment
Hayles Posted March 12, 2007 Author Share Posted March 12, 2007 hehe, they are hotties, I think there is no such thing as an unattractive person... it's just interesting, that's all... even with my bf of 3 years... we'd never have got talking of t weren't for the internet - we knew eachother, would say hello but that's it. He used to stare at me for like 3 years, and never appraoached me, and when I ask why, he really doesn't seem to know the answer, it intrigues me - I mean, what would the reasons be? seriously? Link to comment
Hayles Posted March 12, 2007 Author Share Posted March 12, 2007 If you see a guy you want to meet, shoot that exact expression at him. Seriously! hehe, it wouldn't help... I don't think so... guys will whistle out of cars, but when I'm standing near by - they won't come within 3 foot - and I know I don't smell!!!! hehe Link to comment
tomb Posted March 12, 2007 Share Posted March 12, 2007 Maybe he just didn't want to admit that he was intimidated. Link to comment
thisisjustsowrong Posted March 12, 2007 Share Posted March 12, 2007 Ok, I am not a guy, but are you KIDDING? Maybe they don't approach you, 'cause they think you are too hot, that they do't have a chance or something Seriously, you are not pulling our leg, are you? Link to comment
shikashika Posted March 12, 2007 Share Posted March 12, 2007 you are good looking and you know it... I think you just wanted a bunch of random people on the internet to reassure you and say "yeah you're cute, you're hot.. of course you are " Link to comment
Hayles Posted March 12, 2007 Author Share Posted March 12, 2007 wHAT?? I am being completely serious... dead set.... how could someone be too hot?! that doesn't even make sense!!! I really want to know... it confuses me is all. Link to comment
Hayles Posted March 12, 2007 Author Share Posted March 12, 2007 you are good looking and you know it... I think you just wanted a bunch of random people on the internet to reassure you and say "yeah you're cute, you're hot.. of course you are " Wow, that's actually a little harsh. I am not asking you all to say "Oh wow! what a hottie", I am actually asking... If I'm apparently so good looking that I should know it... why don't guys ever come near me? seriously... why am i the last girl at the table to be approached?! It's a little hard to believe that I am so good looking when noone actually comes near me!!!!! Link to comment
tomb Posted March 12, 2007 Share Posted March 12, 2007 You've never heard of shyness? Fear of rejection? Tens don't date fives? Link to comment
shikashika Posted March 12, 2007 Share Posted March 12, 2007 Wow, that's actually a little harsh. I am not asking you all to say "Oh wow! what a hottie", I am actually asking... If I'm apparently so good looking that I should know it... why don't guys ever come near me? seriously... why am i the last girl at the table to be approached?! It's a little hard to believe that I am so good looking when noone actually comes near me!!!!! Sorry if thats harsh... I don't really know why it would be. but every so often on here.. people post a photo of themselves and ask "am I good looking.. am I?"... or..."why don't I have a girlfriend/ boyfriend?"... and then a "look here's my photo!" Really a photo has nothing to do with it.. maybe its your attitude? personality? smiling or not. I have a friend ( a guy) who is big and fat and doesn't wash his hair... but he has hot girls tripping all over him... something about him I guess. how are all your friends body language when you go out? ps... if I was a guy I'd lust after you ! Link to comment
shikashika Posted March 12, 2007 Share Posted March 12, 2007 Do you smoke? ooh this is a good one.. major turn off for me anyway.. doesn't matter how good looking he is, or how much he's smiling.. for a lot of people I know this is a MAJOR turnoff as well.. Link to comment
Hayles Posted March 12, 2007 Author Share Posted March 12, 2007 I am never very good at getting out what I actually want to say on here... hehe.... So, I am asking about myself in a sense... but the whole concept baffles me... in general. I'm of course not unhappy with the way I look, I am confident, outgoing, happy, bubbly, mature... I may though be giving off signals to the contrary... obviously!!! hehe... My friends (well, this is some while back now as we don't go out any more - all settled down with kids etc.) but once a year or so we will head out for a cocktail.... they were flirty and outgoing, I'm not flirty at all, but I also wouldn't have thought myself to be unapproachable. A good example is this one guy who lived down the road from me for over 2 years, every time he drove passed, or I passed his house he'd stop and stand there and stare and smile... but even when he walked within 2 foot of me as he passed my yard - not a word... I can't help think people in my situation may end up missing out on great relationships Link to comment
ghost69 Posted March 13, 2007 Share Posted March 13, 2007 well, i looked at your pic. cute face. i'd hit on you. but your shirt looks like it is choking your body. do you wear stuff like that out? maybe it's just me, but it's not a look i look for on a woman. anyways, do you have devil eyes and stare at guys like what are you doing over here? maybe your friends are more open and friendly. when a guy approaches you and yoru friends, they introduce themselves to all of you right? Link to comment
Hayles Posted March 14, 2007 Author Share Posted March 14, 2007 Hehe, thanks about the tip on the shirt, but no, I'd never wear that out of the house... Seeing as it's actually a wrap towel (photo taken in the bathroom!) hehe... I don't know - perhaps I am a little uptight, maybe I don't look as confident as I think I do! Link to comment
WildIrishRose Posted March 14, 2007 Share Posted March 14, 2007 My friends (well, this is some while back now as we don't go out any more - all settled down with kids etc.) but once a year or so we will head out for a cocktail.... they were flirty and outgoing, I'm not flirty at all, but I also wouldn't have thought myself to be unapproachable. I think that you could try flirting more (such as smiling, eye contact for 3 seconds at a time then look away, and a head tilt, exposing your wrists and touching your hair) and see what happens. Men pick up on signals, and they'll take a chance because flirting makes a woman more approachable and there's a lower chance for rejection. Link to comment
ghost69 Posted March 14, 2007 Share Posted March 14, 2007 do you keep your confidence up when you are out meeting people? you have to know you are attractive and capable of meeting someone. i wouldn't talk to a woman if she looked down or had no self esteem. Link to comment
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