2nd heartbreak...I thought it would be eaiser

[darkpumpkin]

I'm having a really hard time right now. It's been a week since the break up and two days of n/c. He wasn't right for me, wasn't the one. We fought 2 months into our relationship. He never wanted to figure things out and now I'm here feeling like it was all my fault feeling terrible and wishing things were different. I've tried asking for him back and the repsonse I got was him putting up a new dating profile and already sending roses to other girls. I feel totally lost and alone I thought that the 2nd time would be easier to get over someone but it's not....really really really not. Please someone tell me that I will be alright.

[isidore]

Any time you lose someone it will be tough. But in some ways it's not as bad (for me anyway) because I've been through it before so I know it'll get better. The thing I worry about is the next time. Yikes!

[darkpumpkin]

That's just it. The first time destroyed me as a person. I became obsessed and weak and this time I'm not as week but I'm numb and I'm in pain

[isidore]

I think we should both wait and talk to each other after the 3RD time.

 

See, you're not as weak this time. That's a good thing, darn it! I'm in pain too. We wouldn't be normal if there wasn't any pain.

[darkpumpkin]

Ya I give you that. But damn it I hate this. I know I know pain makes you grow, become better. But lol I want my sh*tty relationship back

[willow2900]

With feeling great pain and despair comes the flip side: feeling elation, joy and love.

 

You are working through this horrible time and it will get better. Be blessed you feel these emotions, the opposite side of the spectrum is waiting for you.

[darkpumpkin]

Really I hope so. It's so easy to think this will never end. What's worse is that I know that when this feeling of pain and lonelyness passes there will be another and another until I'm over it. I guess I've read so much that your just supposed to get up and start moving on and take no time to greive

[terk2021]

I'm having a really hard time right now. It's been a week since the break up and two days of n/c. He wasn't right for me, wasn't the one. We fought 2 months into our relationship. He never wanted to figure things out and now I'm here feeling like it was all my fault feeling terrible and wishing things were different. I've tried asking for him back and the repsonse I got was him putting up a new dating profile and already sending roses to other girls. I feel totally lost and alone I thought that the 2nd time would be easier to get over someone but it's not....really really really not. Please someone tell me that I will be alright.

 

I know how you are feeling. I think the 2nd time is worse. After getting your heart broken the 1st time, you feel such heartache and pain. After you go through it the 1st time, you think you are prepared for things that come up in relationships, and you can deal with it easier. Why? Because you got over the 1st one, and you know in time that it will get better.

 

I am going through my 2nd heartbreak, and it has been destroying me physically, mentally, and emotionally. Love can be the most wonderful feeling in the world. Losing that love gives the exact opposite feeling. To me, what makes it worse is looking for signs in a relationship to see where it is going, and to attempt to avoid the heartache.

 

The reality is, you cannot enjoy a fulfilling relationship if you base it on your past one, or follow up the breakup worse than the once before. I have been doing so well since this breakup for the past 2 months. The past 2 weeks though (long story), I feel more hurt than ever about this one.

 

I will heal in time, and so will you. It just sucks that it is so hard, because we know we got over the 1st one. Having a heart can be incredible, but can also be the worst thing at times.

 

I wish you well, and everyone is out here to support you.

[darkpumpkin]

Thank you. Your right. After getting over the first one you think you will be prepared for the next one but it's not true. All the things you experianced come back to haunt you and it hurts almost worst.