Phoenix_girl Posted March 10, 2007 Share Posted March 10, 2007 OK....I am confused as to whats going on with my friendship with my best friend. We have known each other since we started university (almost 5 years now). He lives in Oshawa (im in Toronto) and doesn't have regular access to a car (from what he says) so we dont see each other that much. He used to always respond to emails and phone calls, but lately he doesnt. A while ago, I told him i had feelings for him (he had suspected it for a long time, etc, etc. So it wasnt out of the blue). He didnt really say no to a relationship, just a "not now" kind of thing. Anyway we walked away from it with no problems.....or so i thought. Shortly after this I decided i needed to give up MSN for a while for various reasons...we had a bit of tiff over this cause he thought i was going to send myself to social siberia and end up more depressed Lately I don't hear from him. He doesnt return calls. Or emails. The last i heard from him, was on feb 28 and he said hed been really busy, etc etc. Whenever i have brought up getting together he always says "soon", but never elborates. Whenever i suggest a time he finds something else to do. The last time i talked to him it was like a 2 min phone call and he said he was driving over to a friends house (slap in the face for me). I hear about all the stuff he does with his "real" friends, and he says he'll come visit me when he can kill two birds with one stone (in other words when he has something else to do in toronto). I perceive this to mean "you arent important enough to warrent a visit just to see you". He says he loves our friendship, but I'm starting to feel like he doesn't want to be my friend. I dont know if any of you have heard of or use Facebook, but he blocked me on there (dont ask how i know, its a long story) - now he did tell me he wasnt going to add me (something about it being another addiction to replace my addiction to MSN), but to me theres a big difference between just not adding someone and completely blocking them. Maybe I'm just blowing this out of proportion. I miss him, i miss our friendship. WHat should i do? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
annie24 Posted March 10, 2007 Share Posted March 10, 2007 how do you know he blocked you on face book? You know, from what you described, it sounds like he is avoiding you, so I think you should step away and let him pursue you if he is interested. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Phoenix_girl Posted March 10, 2007 Author Share Posted March 10, 2007 I know because i had found a friend from high school on there and we got talking. I told her how i had a little thing for my best friend and she asked if i had a pic. I said hes got a file on facebook and i gave her his name. I was just gonna send her the link, so i searched for him but found nothing. I assumed he had just taken the profile down, but she sends me a message saying how she thought he was cute......i was like...."wait you found the profile?". Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
annie24 Posted March 10, 2007 Share Posted March 10, 2007 ah, i see.... you know what, in that case, stay the heck away from him! it sounds like he is really avoiding you, so you should stay away also. I don't know if you did something that freaked him out, or if he is just a freak, but forget him. Because guys don't get asked out as often as women, I think that some of them just aren't really skilled at turning down a girl, so now he is avoiding your calls, not coming to see you, and blocking you on facebook, instead of just saying, "thanks, but I'm not interested in a romantic relationship." Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Phoenix_girl Posted March 10, 2007 Author Share Posted March 10, 2007 When i had told him that i sort of had a thing for him, i also told him that the friendship was more important to me. This really sucks. And on a similar note, i jsut found out another guy, who has added me to his friend list (i worked with this one) has restricted me. I should just join a convent - no males there. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
annie24 Posted March 10, 2007 Share Posted March 10, 2007 why did he restrict you? what does that mean exactly? are you stalking these guys? coming on too strong? calling them at all hours? what is your behavior towards these guys? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Phoenix_girl Posted March 10, 2007 Author Share Posted March 10, 2007 I don't know why he restricted me. He added me to his friends list and I used to be able to see everything on his profile (photos, friends list, etc). But now i can only see the basic stuff. This guys is weird. We met at work and ended up working in receiving together, jsut the two of us. When we worked down there he was great - we'd chat, watch movies, whatever. He was easy to get along with. Then he moved up into the store where we worked and took over the computer department. Ever since then hes more moody. We still talked, but not as much or as easily...if that makes sense. I sorta have a thing for him, but we never really talked about that. I jsut enjoyed talking with im in general. I don't call him, and besides work related stuff i never really messaged him or emailed. And i havent done anythink on facebook (i realized he had restricted me because i wanted to post on his wall in regards to his status and noticed that his profile looked weird). Now i no longer work for that store (as of friday) and I was hoping to stay in touch, but no idea if he would be ok with that......its a weird sign hes sent - "yes ill add you as a friend, but ill restrict what you can see". He is on my MSN by the way. So thats that one.... If i am stalking them then apparently casual contact is now considered stalking. The guys whose my best friend, I call him a little more, because im not on MSN anymore but other then that..... *sigh* where do i sign up for the convent? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
annie24 Posted March 10, 2007 Share Posted March 10, 2007 ......its a weird sign hes sent - "yes ill add you as a friend, but ill restrict what you can see". He is on my MSN by the way. if a guy said that to me, I wouldn't talk to him again, and I would block him for good. blah! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Phoenix_girl Posted March 10, 2007 Author Share Posted March 10, 2007 He didnt actually say that, but its what his actions are basically saying. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
annie24 Posted March 10, 2007 Share Posted March 10, 2007 honestly, it sounds like neither of these guys is into you, so don't bother with them anymore. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Phoenix_girl Posted March 10, 2007 Author Share Posted March 10, 2007 The thing with the second guy (the one i worked with) has been resolved. PG Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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