socal Posted March 10, 2007 Share Posted March 10, 2007 oh man i agree... mostly co-workers. and it gets kinda difficult because i like to maintain a bit of distance from those i work with Link to comment
catren Posted March 10, 2007 Author Share Posted March 10, 2007 I'll save a table in the corner. And I'll order a round of drinks for us. What'll you have? Link to comment
socal Posted March 10, 2007 Share Posted March 10, 2007 with the way we're all feeling tonight i feel a round of tequilla shots in order before anything else! Link to comment
bear12 Posted March 10, 2007 Share Posted March 10, 2007 i'd like a vodka tonic please.. .or depending on the kind of night we're looking to have maybe i'll go for shot of tequila? you guys don't mind if i bring my books with to study do you? i'm not really prepared for my test yet!!! Link to comment
catren Posted March 10, 2007 Author Share Posted March 10, 2007 24 and in grad school Bear - you've been busy. Link to comment
catren Posted March 10, 2007 Author Share Posted March 10, 2007 I recently completed a graduate degree in Post-Secondary Education - I do not miss school a bit. Please, study away - I'm just glad it's not me....lol Link to comment
bear12 Posted March 10, 2007 Share Posted March 10, 2007 yeah, well, i went straight through. in retrospect it proably wasn't a very good idea... i might have a bit more direction in my life if i had really thought about going before i did!! oh well.. funny thing is that all of my accomplishments still werent' good enough for my ex! but who cares about him... just dont' let me drunk dial after all of our tequilla shots! Link to comment
HDD Posted March 10, 2007 Share Posted March 10, 2007 i'll go for a martini I am in central CA. I WAS kind of in contact with my ex but i never called him... he kept calling me, like once in two weeks or so. tells me he misses me and its hard for him but on the other hand he is seeing someone... UGH! So i am kind of sick of this BS. Bear, like you i am also used to being in a college environment and meeting people is so much easier in that surrounding. but now I have a job and i dont like to get involved with my coworkers. so i have been trying to do other things like going to the gym, hanging out at coffee shops, etc but its really hard to meet people. cant wait to get over this feeling... its hard bc we were together for 6 years Link to comment
bear12 Posted March 10, 2007 Share Posted March 10, 2007 oh, that's really cool! are you teaching now? or do you do more administrative type stuff? Link to comment
catren Posted March 10, 2007 Author Share Posted March 10, 2007 Don't worry - we won't let you get close to a phone This is the sisterhood - men not allowed...lol. Link to comment
catren Posted March 10, 2007 Author Share Posted March 10, 2007 More policy work - in health actually. The degree really doesn't relate to my career but I was ready to learn again and I was interested in the degree I did. What are you studying? Link to comment
catren Posted March 10, 2007 Author Share Posted March 10, 2007 HDD - there will be a chair for you for sure. Link to comment
HDD Posted March 10, 2007 Share Posted March 10, 2007 i want to go back to school and get a graduate degree. I am kind of tired of working in the corporate world. the money is great but i want to learn more. Link to comment
bear12 Posted March 10, 2007 Share Posted March 10, 2007 HDD- wow, 6 years is a really long time- i can see why you would be so upset he's moved on so quickly. still, you need to remember that him dating someone else really isn't any relfection of how he felt about you or your relationship. assuming you were the dumpee, for one, he probably started to deal with his feelings about the break up far before you did and thus is already more healed. second, maybe i shouldn't generalize here, but i think guys are maybe more likely to not take proper time to heal and just jump into another relationship to mask the hurt they're feeling. i know how hard it is to know he's with someone else, but i dont' think him being with her at all changes what you had/have with him now. if that makes any sense... Link to comment
HDD Posted March 10, 2007 Share Posted March 10, 2007 you two are lucky to have graduate degree... its a GREAT accomplishment. That would def. boost my confidence level and help me meet new people. Link to comment
socal Posted March 10, 2007 Share Posted March 10, 2007 ladies, it's leave your phone and inhabitions at the door night. lol HDD, it will get better and although i'm sure you're tired of hearing that it's true. Before I met this brief jerk I was with another where someone told me it takes half the time you were with someone to really get over it. i'm at that mark... and that's when i was able to let guard down and..... umm... can we get another round of tequilla over here? Link to comment
bear12 Posted March 10, 2007 Share Posted March 10, 2007 i'm in law school... and almost done! i wasn't a huge fan of the corporate world either, which is why i'm working for the fed. govt. after i graduate. i'd much prefer a 9-5 than a 9-2AM even if i'll only be making half the money... Link to comment
socal Posted March 10, 2007 Share Posted March 10, 2007 oddly you guys say this.... i was working in the corporate world and got sick of it too and split. I decided to go back to school for my masters and oddly a job landed on my lap. i work for the fed now (which is why i'm temporarily in omaha) and you can't beat the hours, pay, work/life flexibilities, and benefits. i love it. Link to comment
HDD Posted March 10, 2007 Share Posted March 10, 2007 bear you do make sense. it was a mutual break up and we both saw it coming... but i was more the lets work things out rather than break up type and i think he probably just got tired. I am just hurt because he has moved on. and i am in no condition to be in a relationship now so it makes me sad to know that he is in one already. I know he cares abt me and stuf, but it just hurts. u know. Link to comment
bear12 Posted March 10, 2007 Share Posted March 10, 2007 so, socal you said you're coming to nor cal after omaha? does that mean SF perhaps? maybe i'll run into you in some govt. circles Link to comment
socal Posted March 10, 2007 Share Posted March 10, 2007 yes SF is my home office. i'm sure you will, it's oddly, a very small city! Link to comment
bear12 Posted March 10, 2007 Share Posted March 10, 2007 HDD- do you think it might hurt less (key word being less!) if you stopped talking to him? it sounds like you're still taking to him quite a bit if you know how much he's talking to her etc... that's when i stopped talking to my ex- when he started seeing someone else.. i knew if i knew her name or anything about her it would just make it so much harder for me so i just had to stop... i miss him like crazy, but at least i don't cry every day anymore.. just some days... i don't know why that's a happy face statement- maybe i'm trying to cheer myself up! Link to comment
socal Posted March 10, 2007 Share Posted March 10, 2007 bear- you're not going to usf by any chance are you? or cal? Link to comment
HDD Posted March 10, 2007 Share Posted March 10, 2007 WOW Law school! Thats awesome And working for the Fed in Omaha Nice!!! even though my job is amazing, everything is great, my work is very flexible, i feel like i need to get more degrees. raise my IQ a little more not that its not challenging right now, but i need a change. Link to comment
HDD Posted March 10, 2007 Share Posted March 10, 2007 bear, i HAVE officially stopped talking to him... or answering his calls. I didnt find out abt his new love interest till today morning and as you can imagine i had an amazing day after that!!! I dont feel like talking to him anymore cause whats the point. he has moved on, hope he is happy and stays happy. thats all i can do. i am so glad i found you girls to talk to! making my friday night so much more worth it! Link to comment
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