noidea Posted March 10, 2007 Share Posted March 10, 2007 hey guys second post now im still working on my communicating issues although i dont seem to be getting a whole lot better right next little issue, it always seems that im getting a hard time for everything. i recently went away with some friends for couple of days was an awsome road trip and a great weekend, i really wanted my gf to come and asked her many times but she said she didnt feel comfortable around every1 and she didnt want to go out every night drinking. which is fine i dont do it often, but really enjoy it and i havent been out in ages! she also said i dont help, which bugged me a little i always ask her to come to these things and said that it would get easier with time the more time u spend with people the more comfortable you become it wont jus happen over night. but she sees it that on previous occaisions wen she has tried to come out and socialise with my friends i jus leave her to it, seems weird because i dont see it that way at all i genuinley thought that i was making an effort bein with her and tryin to include her. but to be honest im not the "soul of the party" kinda person so i didnt find this particularly easy but i really thought i made an effort, and cant actually remember leavin her unless it was to use the toilet or something. it seems im gettin a hard time over everything, im a car nut its my passion im a total loser wen it comes to cars especially my own car, iv always wanted the particular car iv got since i was a small boy, and now i have it and it needs tons of work i cant really afford it but i love it, if i had my way if completely gut it and start again using any spare minute i had working on it. but i havent, i havent by i long stretch would of been a little unreasonable to do that wouldnt it but even if i want to wash it you can tell she isnt happy. or if i want to see my family i rarely see them as im at uni so wen i do go i want to spend time with them and not leave til i have to its kinda precious to me. but she finds it hard bein there, personality clashes with my family so i spend alot of time making sure shes happy doin things with her more than my family. im sure she doesnt see it that way!! its usually a weekend ill go down so friday night we'll rush down and by sunday she'd want to leave by 6 or so, and even if she hasnt come with me its the same, that i need to spend time with her too so i should come back early. i dont feel as if i do the things i want to do, and im continuously tryin to please her so she doenst get annoyed, i feel as if this is ok because shes under alot of stress and theres alot goin on but is it right, is it right for either of of us i could go on for days with examples but im close to breakin point, i really want to know if i really am bein unreasonable try to accept it and rectify my ways or learn how to cope. man i went on a bit there again, very sorry i hope some1 has the patience to read through it and make some sort of sense to it thank u Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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