whybmarried Posted March 9, 2007 Share Posted March 9, 2007 Hi, Let me first say thank you to everyone who replies. It's nice to know there are people out there willing to lending an ear. A little background, this is my 2nd marriage. My first one wasn't technically a marriage, it was more of I was young, had a baby, right thing to do, type of marriage. He ended up being physically and emotionally abusive, so I left..not even 6 months after we got married. This marriage is a little different. My husband and I met through work, dated 3 years before getting married. It's now been 2 years into the marriage and I'm not so sure I want to be married any more. It first started about a year after we got married, I started having feelings for this other guy. I told my husband about it, he got all upset (as he should) and I stopped talking to this guy. We eventually got past that... Well, now a former fling from 6 years ago has walked back into my life. Everything was fine at first, just talking, laughing, but then things got a little out of hand, and well, we just did things that shouldn't have been done. I feel completely awful that I cheated on my husband and feel I can't get past the guilt. I started pushing husband away and eventually he started catching on that something was wrong. To make a long story short, we had a talk the other day, we're in a trial separation for the next couple weeks. My probably is I really don't feel like I had time to be me..to be single, do what I want to do, when I want to do it. I've been talking to a counselor who said that if I was happily married I wouldn't let these feelings for other guys manifest like they have, that I would just shut them out. I guess it seems like I'm not happily married, although my husband is the best husband any woman could wish for..he's caring, loving, he'll do anything for me, get me anything I want, just there all the time. The problem is I feel like I've become a different person..I'm a lot more outgoing than he is, I like to go out, he likes to stay home. I'm not sure what to do..I don't want to feel like a failure, but I don't think I can carry this guilt of what I've done, on my shoulders for the rest of my life. Any advise is greatly appreciated. Thanks! Quote Link to comment
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