nctxtd Posted March 6, 2007 Share Posted March 6, 2007 I've been with my girlfriend for two years, and I'm crazy in love with her. I am a freshman in college, and she is a senior in high school, and we live about an hour away from each other. Before I left for school in August, we were best friends and rarely ever got into arguments. I continued to make the journey home every other weekend to see her, and it remained a positive long-distance situation until this Christmas. Although I was previously very happy with our sex lives, All of a sudden, we went from having sex at least 3 times a week, to a staggering (possibly) once every to 2 weeks, and she began alienating herself away from the immaculate intimacy we once shared. She gave no reasons for the strange behavior, and so I just went along because she "had a lot to deal with at the moment"(graduation, leaving friends, ect). As this treatment went on, she started to become distant and depressed>and anything I did to try to help only drew harsher criticism. I became very worried, and tried to talk to her about it, but she shrugged off my concerns like I was crazy to think anything was wrong. This is where it started to hurt Continuing to come in every other weekend, the majority of our time spent together was on the phone and through e-mail. Akwardly, our conversations grew very quiet, and she seemed to pick up a habitual tone of irritation and haste when talking to me at night. Our once 30 minute phone conversations quickly became 5 minute catch-ups. She started taking more outside calls while on the phone with me, including once taking 5 friendly calls in a 12 minute conversation. god damn>then she started to put me down and has been pretty malicious all in a "joking manner". She initiated a new behavior in which she frankly says or does things strictly to make me jealous. It can be things like leaving me on the couch to go lay with the dog and make over her(laughing and squealing obnoxiously, while professing her love of animals). When i give in and come to be with her on the floor, she pulls the (my)dog away, and says something like "no, she only wants me". Um, alright. She also began to talk non stop about (her favorite male band) and other men, and how much she "loves" them. This is really killing me>I really feel taken for granted. None of the other "men" she worships picks her up or tells her she looks damn delicious. Plus, I know for a fact that I do not talk about other women in front of her face, and I do not give confusing signals about who I love, because I know that it hurts. Even though I told her that I didn't like the way she was making me feel, she continued to sing praises to seemingly anyone but me, and she "loved them all". Day after day, i bottled up the hurt she was causing. By this time, I was definitly feeling some bad vibes, but it was only the tip of the iceberg Because of my abscense, she hangs out with her group of girlfriends(all of which I am friendly with) everynight, and has become what I find uncomfortably close with two of them. A mixture of weird body tension occurs when we all hang out> and she has no problem being shockingly sexually oriented when around them. For instance, she posted pictures of a "friendly encounter"(3 guys,2 girls) in which she was seen seductively feeding her two female companions hot rice crispy treats with her bare hands, not to mention a marshmellow fight, which were placed down someone's pants and wrestled into someone else's mouth(boys vs girls). I began to grow jealous and confused as to why she would begin posting things up that would make me uneasy. Then she started leaving her one girlfriend, J, some suspicious notes baby, what are you doing tomorro? i miss you so much...we need to hang out STAT" and "I Need another girl's night with you!!!". She then began explaining to my face about how J was her best girlfriend, and about how she is "cute". (Not the first time using that ambiguous phrase to describe other females) All of this exhibited sexual energy, and I have to pray to make love to her twice a month? Something is definitly wrong, but she wont talk about it. I am scared that shes "getting to know" J behind my back, but doesn't want to end our relationship because she thinks I won't be able to handle it or she wants to use me for money. I know that she has made out with girls in the past, and calls all the ones she knows as "hot . The tides of confusion and jealousy are ripping me apart right now. PLEASE if you can think of explanations or help, offer away. I love her like the sun, but I can't let this be the end of me. how should I view these signs of distress? Why did everything change? Quote Link to comment
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