oldertwin Posted March 6, 2007 Share Posted March 6, 2007 basic story: shy guy, who i have to see regularly, knows i "like" him and hasn't said a word. what now? long story: ok, there's this guy in our "A grade" local brass band, we sit kinda next to each other 'cos of the band layout. we're both 17, really good at music. he's *got* to have noticed by now that i go bright red whenever he comes in, but i keep acting all crazy because he's reeeally shy and NEVERRR said anything about it. i turn into this outgoing happy fun girl for everyone ELSE, but if ever it's just me and him, i freeze up. it isn't that i'm shy with guys. i'm not. just with him. and he does the same when i'm around. it sucks. and i'm humiliated that he hasn't bothered to say anything to me about it. like i'm not worth talking to?? i mean, if you suspect that a girl you see around a lot, likes you - and then you get it confirmed by her horrified reaction when someone teases her about you - shouldn't you say SOMETHING?? i KNOW he's reeeally shy. heard from his mum, his sisters. apparently he just DOESN'T TALK when there are girls around. that's actually a bit sad, you know? i'd be happy to teach him. lol. if it weren't for the.. other issues. y'know, i USED to try talking to him. he'd kind of stare at me... then at the ground... and he'd take like 20 seconds coming up with an answer. nowadays i'm too scared to even try. WORST of all. there are only 4 of us 17-yr-olds in the band. the conductor had the bright idea of putting us all in an under-19 quartet. so it is going to be unbearably awkward. & i'm totally freeeeeaking out. the guy happened to miss out on the first rehearsal. our conductor was like, "when marcus gets back, and you all play together, you're going to win!!" i'm thinking, *when marcus gets back he is going to be sooo freaked out.* i'm scaaared. about two weeks ago i called after him as he was leaving the rehearsal, "hey marcus, you're not actually mad at me, are you?" and he's like "no.. why would i be?" & then he left. just like that. so obviously he's really pssed off at me and is just too nice / too shy to say so!!! i don't think confronting him would help. i think i need to start with really little things. like not acting all uptight and scowling darkly when he comes in, that would be a start. i keep acting like i hate him, quite openly, because i'm terrified of showing that i like him. it's really dumb. like, he missed out on the rehearsal, so when he came in i was like really tightly and nastily, "Marcus. There was a quartet rehearsal half an hour ago. You missed it. I thought you should know." Then I kinda pretended he didn't exist for about two hours... so if he's confused.. that's quite understandable. > we have not shared a normal conversation since, ohh, about nine months ago. and yet we see each other three times a week! and soon we are going to be having all-weekend rehearsals. i.e. = we're both going to be awkward and miserable. > is this pathetic, or is this pathetic? you pick. so what do i actually want? i want to be able to talk to him normally! how do i get this to start?? i wind myself up so tight when he turns up to rehearsal, it's starting to mess with my playing ability. and that sucks. i should NEVER have let this interfere with the band. ](*,) comments/alternate viewpoints? or flames? go ahead. Quote Link to comment
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