AlexFG Posted March 4, 2007 Share Posted March 4, 2007 Hi everyone, i've been in a serious relationship with my girlfriend for more than 10 months already. i was 17 and she was 15 when we started so we're pretty young and inexperienced. This has been the first serious relationship for both of us in our lives; eventhough i did date some girls before i met her. Needless to say, it has been a great experience until now. She's the most caring and sweet girl i've ever met. She's always kissing me, complimenting me and overall she makes me feel appretiated and loved. When i met her, i only saw her as a friend and somehow that friendship developed into a love relationship- a really good and unique one. We started very slow and didnt have sex until about six months ago. We were both virgins eventhough she thought i was not. I used to make her body vibrate every time i touched her skin, she'd blush and giggle all the time and it was clear to me that she enjoyed everything i did to her. However last week on saturday we had an small argument but it was nothing so we tried to forget about it and have sex. After a few minutes i decided to stop because i noticed she was not enjoying it as much and she also said that she felt some pain in her ovaries and was worried about getting pregnant etc. We talked about it afterwards cuz i suspected something was wrong; but we concluded that we just killed the mood with the argument and it was nothing serious. We talked on the phone every day and we sent text messages to each other a lot during the following days as usual. When i went to see her again on thursday i noticed she was kinda different and at the end of the night she didnt even try to initiate sex by kissing me or teasing like she always does. But it was late and we had to go to school on friday so i didnt pay as much attention to it. On friday night though, we went to my best friend's house and we had sex there. However it wasnt as intense as usual and on the way back to her house she was kinda different too,so when i got home after i dropped her off at her house i sent her a text message asking if something was wrong but she said no. Yesterday i picked her up and went to have dinner at a local restaurant. Afterwards we walked around a park a little bit and then i drove her back home. When we got there we started talking and then we started kissing, i began to smell her neck and a few other things that used to get her turned on. But as she was getting turned on she stopped, opened my cellphone and started checking my text messages. She saw a message from one of my female friends but it wasnt anything that would bother her. This time i decided to confront her and i asked her what the hell was going on. At the beginning she said it was nothing but i kept insisting until she told me that her sexual desire is not as high as it used to be before, that lately she doesnt feel like having sex. I started to get worried cuz at that point there was something definatelly wrong. I asked her if she knew why that was happening but she said she was confused and that she couldnt explain it. She said that she only feels that way when it comes to having sex. I told her that i was gonna give her some time to think about it and find out what was wrong, during that time i wont call her neither will i try to initiate any other type of communication or answer her calls until she knew what was happening. She was crying the whole time and saying that she didnt wanna lose me, but i convinced her that taking some time off was the best solution. We promised each other that during that time we were gonna be fine and that taking time off didnt mean i was gonna start dating other girls or anything like that. i told her that she had to be completely honest with herself and if she didnt feel the same way anymore about our relationship in general she had to tell me so we can try to work through it or even break up if it was too late. Cuz if i cant make her happy anymore then there is no point in being together. As much as i love her im willing to let her go. It's gonna be hard for me cuz i've taken her to every single place in this city. Everywhere i go i remember her but if it needs to be done i'll do it. I talked to one of my older friends and he said that i did the right thing by giving her some time off to miss me, that will make her realize how much i really mean to her. I believe that maybe the decrease in sexual desire is because having sex has become kind of a routine. We do it most of the time in the car or when we're at the house we're always worried that we might get caught by our parents etc. I've felt like that before but i always tried to please her, so i never said no. It's either that or maybe she found someone else, or maybe i've killed all the attraction she felt towards me by being too nice; i dont really know. I'm preparing myself psychologically for the worst; but i would hate to lose her cuz i love her and all this time she has demonstrated that she loves me too. So i'd like to get some opinions especially from girls. I wanna know if im doing the right thing. Thx in advance. BTW sorry i made it so long but i wanted to give as many details as possible. Quote Link to comment
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