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I.. just have to express myself.


Thank you to everybody who takes the time to read and comment this.


I am. extremely attracted to someone.


I met her.. bout a year ago. It was at a friends party. We sat in the dark, and she turned to me and said "Hi, I'm *her name.*."

She said it with such authenticity. So friendly. And you could just tell that was who she is. We talked slightly, and had a nice night.


the thing about her is that shes so. light. as in, her personalitys just so.. almost as if shes slightly drugged, but in a nice way. i dunno. very hard to explain somebody like her. ive never met anybody like her.


aaaanyway. didnt talk much after that. but this year ive seen her more and more - only when weve been at the same place at the same time. Party's, events, etc.

helps when you have similar friends.


shes not an msn person, and doesnt use myspace often, so that limits "casual online talk". sadly.


lately, ive been increasingly more attracted to her. everytime i see her she proves that she really is who she is. Amazing. So so so so genuine, but not in the typical way. like, she doesnt try to be genuine.


I'll try and explain her, but mind you, no word's can do her justice.

Her best friend said something about her last night that went like this:

"She's so great, because no matter how unfunny you've felt all day, you can just have a chat to her and feel like you're a real comedian."

She appreciates so much. and finds most things people say funny. and she finds them genuinely funny. she loves life.

ive never heard her mock anyone, and have seen her being concerned for others.


People tend to have protective masks. We often mask ourselves, even though we dont realise it. it's almost a survival instinct. even the most outrageously open people have inner feelings they dont let out. the great thing about her is she doesnt seem to have the mask.


Last night, 8 of us went out to dinner, her and i included. Her and i shared a bond. We sung songs together. We did beetle's album cover photos together. we went to safeway, and together looked for icecream and cones.


i was sad to see her go, later, after we'd walked back to a friends house.


Still, I don't even have her number.


everytime she hugs me, i feel like. this weird feeling. as if im hugging the goodness of the world. as if im hugging proof that there are good people.


id love to hug her constantly - but i cant. were just friends.


should i act upon this? or should i let the relationship develop as friends for now?


As much as i'd love to be with her, id hate to lose her friendship.

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It sounds like you’re really into her! Sounds like a nice girl, Good on ya!


And she definitely enjoys your company, you can probably see by her body language. How her eyes go when she talks to you, does she gaze a bit longer then normal, pupils dilate? Little spark in the eye? Etc.


Yes, I’d go for it if I was you, you are young, and probably this is new for both of you, it’s probably good to take it slowly.


I finds the best way to show interest in someone is to do so by body language, gaze into her eyes more, listen intently to her conversation, turn your body towards her, don’t fold your arms, but have them open in an inviting way. If she reciprocates your body language, follows the tone of your voice etc, then she’s into you. You don’t even need to say “I like you” which can sound corny, but by saying it clearly with body language she’ll know and reciprocate.


You are both young, so probably aren’t too conscious of the body language as someone who’s experienced dating a lot, but she’s a girl, and girls are normally perceptive, and she’ll pick up on the hints.


Being young it’s probably best to take it slowly, at this stage simply using body language will build the connection. and then you’ll want to see each other more often, and just relax and let everything progress naturally over time, you’ll be closer to her, hug for just a little bit longer each time, etc.


BTW, I know a girl with that name in Melbourne, similar age as you, a friendly outgoing personality, I wonder if it's the same person?

Actually people normally don't include names in their posts, you might wish to edit it.

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mmm. I dont think mentioning the name matters so much, as its only first, but ive edited regardless.


I also think ive made it sound like I'm pretty new to the dating scene..


I'm in year 11, and have had multiple partners.


yeh.. i think im going to go for the body language more

touch seems to be a great method of attraction also.


thanks for the reply

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Yes you should act on this. You should have a long time ago, the moment you felt an attraction to her. Why? Because now you've done nothing but build her up in your mind which in turn makes things so much more difficult. If a person gets rejected by someone they've been crushing on for months and months and months, they are devastated-and it's their own fault. If they ask the person out the moment they realize there is an attraction and get rejected, they were rejected by someone whom hasn't been built up yet-which spares you so much hurt and heartache, not to mention all of the wasted time spent drooling over someone who was never going to be with you anyway.


Don't confess your feelings to her, just ask her out on a romantic date, just the two of you. Do it casually and confidently like it isn't a big deal. If you confess yourself to her then that's dropping a lot on her shoulders all at once. Play it cool. Ask her out on a date. No matter what words come out of her mouth, it's her actions that will tell you whether or not she has interest in you. If she says no or fails to show up on the date, then her actions are saying she has no interest-no matter what the excuse. If she shows up on time looking pretty, then she's into you.

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everytime she hugs me, i feel like. this weird feeling. as if im hugging the goodness of the world. as if im hugging proof that there are good people.

Your entire post touched me, but these lines in particular made my heart swell.


If there is any justice in this world, hopefully you'll get this girl. If only she could somehow read what you have written, God she'd be hooked.

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In my experience focusing too much on one woman usually only leads to heartache.Let's face it most people don't really get to hook up with their first choice or the person that they most desire.By all means ask her out but don't necessarily expect her to say yes.You truly don't know what she is thinking,maybe she just thinks of you as a friend.Don't put her up on a pedestal,take the plunge as soon as you can,so you don't waste time obsessing over her when it might be in your best interest to move on if she isn't interested.Sorry to add some negativity to the thread but I guess my main goal is to prevent you from making the same mistakes that I have made.If you wait too long[like I always do] the moment will likely pass and then the opportunity may never come again with her.Good luck!

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Well. I won't be seeing her til the weekend, so I must wait for now..


But still progress anyway =D


I talked to her best friend about it. She.. doesn't feel its her place to say a lot, but there is an agreement that she is truly unique =P


Her friend said that guys have asked about her before, and she didn't really want to go through it again, even to me.

I think she wants me to ask the girl about it.


I'm lost at the moment though. Part of me wants to go for it, but the other part wants me to sit back, see what happens. I don't want to be too pushy or fast - she's just too. innocent kinda thing. I don't want to spoil that =P

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i saw her today..


this message might be a little bit screwed cuz im fairly drunk.. but still a good typer =D


Okay. Went to the city today with her, and 3 other girls. Spent most time with her, i think. I also think that another girl that came likes me, so that could be a problem, but should be alright i guess. i hope. =P


well. more life story..

today. she was amazing, like usual. She's so.. considerate. She thinks like I wish i thought.


Mm. I just want to hug her more and more.

oneday. hopefully. ill get to look after her.

i want to buy her flowers.



im not sure how her best friend feels about it. we're really close kinda, which is really nice. A mate and i went to her house tonight, and spent the night taking photos and video of us on the floor. Stuff like that makes me really love life.


Where would we be without those we love.

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