JustaGirl31 Posted March 2, 2007 Share Posted March 2, 2007 What does the phrase or characteristic mean "know what they want" mean to you? I'm doing on-line dating and see that phrase a lot "want a girl who knows what they want". I'm assuming they mean what they want out of life. It just seems like such a broad statement. I know what I want for dinner and to buy with my tax return. I know what I want out of a relationship. But I don't know what I want to do with my career, yet. hummm. I'm curious of the great opinions out there on ENA. Share your thoughts.. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ghost69 Posted March 2, 2007 Share Posted March 2, 2007 having goals and going for them. knowing the things they look for in a mate. it wouldn't be some (more than likely young) person that hasn't had much experience dating. how can they say they know what they want, when they haven't experienced much? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Zaphod Posted March 2, 2007 Share Posted March 2, 2007 Perhaps it could mean "knows what they want out of a guy". If it means "Knows what they want out of life" then it's a touch philosophically naiive IMHO. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ghost69 Posted March 2, 2007 Share Posted March 2, 2007 it is a bland statement. can go either way. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RayKay Posted March 2, 2007 Share Posted March 2, 2007 I think it is generally meant to mean "have their priorities straight" and are independent people. That does not mean you necessarily know what you want to do forever..lol...but it does mean you are balanced and have a life of your own and so forth. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JustaGirl31 Posted March 2, 2007 Author Share Posted March 2, 2007 Yes, I have to agree with the posters on here so far, that it's about independence and having goals. IMO - it's more important to know how to get what you want than just knowing. Knowing what you want out of life, such as a career or partner, is always in motion and changing based on life experiences. I just thought I'd bring it up here because I see this in so many people's profiles in the on-line dating world. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Scout Posted March 2, 2007 Share Posted March 2, 2007 What does the phrase or characteristic mean "know what they want" mean to you? Whenever I saw that line in ads, I always assumed that the last person that poster dated had dumped them with the line, "I guess I just don't really know what I want." They actually took that line literally. So, to greatly simplify it, I think what they unconsciously mean by that line is, "I want someone who wants me and won't dump me." Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ghost69 Posted March 2, 2007 Share Posted March 2, 2007 they don't let others direct their life. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
itsallgrand Posted March 3, 2007 Share Posted March 3, 2007 Whenever I saw that line in ads, I always assumed that the last person that poster dated had dumped them with the line, "I guess I just don't really know what I want." They actually took that line literally. So, to greatly simplify it, I think what they unconsciously mean by that line is, "I want someone who wants me and won't dump me." LOL. I've only flirted with the world of on-line dating, but my impression was that "knows what they want" meant : someone who isn't on welfare or living at home, someone who can say on the first few dates whether or not they see a long time thing coming out of the meeting. It does quite often seem to pop up on profiles of folk who still have some residual bad memories lingering about from waffling and/or games, and who now want Perfect Clarity and Security. Know what they want = Want Me and Can Act on It Post-Haste That is the cynical reading though.... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Batya33 Posted March 3, 2007 Share Posted March 3, 2007 I saw it as a cliche throwaway line but read it to mean "if you say you want marriage and/or children, you're not just saying it - it truly is a goal of yours." Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
anggrace Posted March 3, 2007 Share Posted March 3, 2007 I think its a round about way of saying, "I want a girl who won't stray". In other words, they know who they want to be w/ and won't feel the need to explore other possibilities. They don't want a "grass is greener" girl. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MrCrazy2u Posted March 3, 2007 Share Posted March 3, 2007 Well, when I say that it means I want a girl who has her priorities straight and has an idea of what she wants to do with her life. I can't stand when people don't have any kinds of dreams or big goals in life. For example, if someone asked me if I know what I want in life I would say: -I want to finish school within the next 2.5 years with a continued A average -I have several different dream careers and while I work for the Dept of Def for a required 2 years after I graduate I plan on using that time to find the gateway to one of my dream jobs -I know what I want in a woman, but I'm not ready to settle down and won't be for a good 6 years or so... so right now I'm having fun doing whatever I like and I know exactly what I want out of the next 10 years of my life If I was on a date and asked a girl if she knows what she wants and all she says is, "I don't really know, I'm just trying to figure things out and have fun..." I'd think she doesn't have much drive or determination in life (and possibly the same lack of drive in a relationship). I'm not looking for anything long term so the answer to that question doesn't carry much weight right now, but later down the road when I start dating to settle down I would need a much more definitive answer than that. I have a huge drive to be successful at everything I do, from work to relationships so I want a woman who has a similar drive with similar goals. That's my $.02 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ghost69 Posted March 5, 2007 Share Posted March 5, 2007 having direction Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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