freeindeed Posted February 28, 2007 Share Posted February 28, 2007 So I'm in a fairly new relationship, and I'm starting to think that maybe my boyfriend is a bit of a narcissist. Whenever someone brings up a subject he instantly finds a way to tell a story about himself relating to the subject. I know that's it's normal to share similar stories, but it's almost as if he pulled out a "key word" and didn't listen to the rest of what the other person's saying. Here's last night's example: His best friend stops by after work and just says "man, what a day it's incredible to be working at ____." And my boyfriend doesn't even ask why it was incredible he just starts talking about how he couldn't stand working at _____ because of someone. And his best friend says, "no bro, you don't even know...it's incredible." And then my boyfriend starts telling a story about something that happened there with him. I mean, it got really uncomfortably silent after my bf stopped talking, so I broke tension and asked his friend, "so why was it so incredible?" And his best friend started talking about why...(you can tell that he wanted to share the story, he was super excited). I know that doesn't seem like a big deal but I notice a pattern with him. It's like he doesn't really hear what any body says, doesn't ask anybody anything, always likes talking about himself, and seems to be the star of his own show. Which is was totally fine in the beginning because I thought since we were getting to know each other, he just really wanted me to know who he was and stuff. But now it's just getting annoying. He makes EVERYTHING about him. I wrote him a long email about various things the other day, and he responds with 5 paragraphs about him, and his future, and his desire and his goals, and NOT ONE mentione of anything I wrote. I text him a joke, and he texts back about something funny he did that day. I call him and just mention that I've had a lousy day at work, and he interrupts with the wonderful day he had staying at home lounging with his buddies. We've only been dating for about 1 month or so. So are we still going through the "I want this person to get to know me" phase? I actually thought it was supposed to be "I want to get to know the other person" phase, not the "I want them to know all about me" phase. Am I thinking wrong? Is it wrong to think he's being narcissistic? Quote Link to comment
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