blackjack_lover Posted February 28, 2007 Share Posted February 28, 2007 I don't know what to do at this point. I've been dating my GF for 1 year. I met her after a LONG dry spell for me relationship-wise. It had been about five years between my last relationship and when I started to date her. We are both in our early fifties, and own our own homes, and both have had our share of past relationships. Anyway, for the most part it's been a good year, I love her, and things seemed to be headed in the right direction, us buying a house together. Then one day out of the blue, to me anyway, she breaks up with me over something that was basically a misunderstanding. I waited a few days, called her or emailed her, and we patch things up and get back together. The next time,... we go to Lake Tahoe for my son's wedding. The first night there was a dinner reception. My GF's a smoker and is on the shy side. She had never met most of my family, so she was brave, but uneasy. I'm busy saying hi and talking to my family. We got separated, and I wasn't there to introduce her to everyone. She seemed to be fine and have fun. The next day, she spends what I thought was too much time gambling. It's not my thing, plus I'm not a smoker, and the smoking in the casinos bother me, so I was anxious to leave and enjoy the rest of the lake's attractions in the morning before my son's wedding. That eveining, on the way to the wedding, we get into it a little about the gambling. Then half way through the reception she gets really upset about something and is ready to take a bus home. After this weekend she breaks up again, and again I talk to her after a few days of calming down time and we get back together. The third time she broke up with me was right after Christmas. Christmas eve we went over to my daughter's house for dinner and present exchange. It was a nice day, during which my GF said she was ready to buy a house together. I was happy. Christmas day we head over to her brother's house to be with her family. She was uneasy because her mother was going to be there, and tensions were running very high over issues that happened months before and they had not talked since. Anyway, we ate dinner, then they all wanted to play cards. I'm not into cards, and had a hell of a sinus headache, so I layed down. She, and everyone else seemed fine with that. Later we open presents, me popping my sinus pills the whole time trying to get rid of my headache. On the drive home I could tell she was upset, so I tried to talk to her without much luck. We went back to her house. After her adult son packed up his stuff and went home, she blasted me with both barrels about how I didn't smile around her family, didn't join in their games, or help out after dinner(which I did do). Anyway, I go home with her practically throwing all the gifts I gave her in my face saying once again it's over. I emailed her brother saying I'm sorry if I seemed to be unsocial. He said he hadn't noticed I was out of it. In response to asking about my GF, he told me she had a history of breaking up with guys to get back together in a few weeks. Once again we get back together till just after Valentines day, when she dumps me again. Now, I do love her, but am getting tired of this trend. A few notes to keep in mind. 1. She's on hormone replacement patches, so if she misses one, she gets moody, like PMS. 2. Things are great the rest of the time, and I can find only minor flaws with her other than her smoking, but she has resolved to quit. So, what should I do? I'm open to getting back together if we both got counceling, her for her commitment issues, me to learn how to communicate better. What do you guys think??? Thanks! Quote Link to comment
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