Well i took a step and asked a girl for her msn...

[shadowcat]

well some old friend of mine invited me to some youth even that was going on in some church, i thought it would be boring cuz it was church, but i didnt wana let em down so i went.. and i saw alot of girls ... i got kina of nervous because sometimes when girls talk to me i dont know what to say or i studder.. well anyways when we all ate during dinner.. i happened to sit by some girl, shes was ok i guess, she didnt attract me that much..but i thought to myself might as well practice by chattin wit her, so i asked her name blah blah and finally i asked her if she had msn. she told me she did but that she hardly went on..then she didnt say nothing after that, so without asking again i took out ap iece of paper and pen and jus asked "so wats ur msn ?" and she gave it to me.. after that we kept talking, but then she left cuz she had to go to that bathroom. i felt sorta happy i took that step not knowing this chick, but i still feel like it was too easy because i wasnt quite attracted to her and i jus wanted to feel how it was to get a girls email... when a girl really is attractive i get nervous and the feeling of being rejected..i guess i have along way to go, what yall think ?

[Beec]

I think this was good practice and it went well.

 

When I was single and freshly out of a relationship, I sometimes found confidence lacking. It helped me to get more confident by going out on dates with increasingly attractive, to me, women. I was one to date a few at once, and I would weed some out and the numbers down until I had one that I wanted to be with.

 

Keep it up.

[shadowcat]

I think this was good practice and it went well.

 

When I was single and freshly out of a relationship, I sometimes found confidence lacking. It helped me to get more confident by going out on dates with increasingly attractive, to me, women. I was one to date a few at once, and I would weed some out and the numbers down until I had one that I wanted to be with.

 

Keep it up.

 

date a few at one ? i never dated more then jus one girl, but if you dont mind telling me how u date many at once id be greatful

[Beec]

Well, it is pretty easy to do when you live in a place like New York City. I would begin by seeing a woman on a weeknight. Then once I saw her and she was good enough to date again, there would be really no contact for about a week before I asked her out again. I did not let her expect one date led to another right away. Caller ID kept my knowing who I spoke to, and when she was good enough to see for a third time, she was eligible for a weekend night. I could juggle 2-4 at any one time, more than that was too many.

 

When I was in high school, fwiw, I dated women at different schools, which worked pretty well to keep them separated. But dating more than 2 was really hard, although easier in summer.

[shadowcat]

Well, it is pretty easy to do when you live in a place like New York City. I would begin by seeing a woman on a weeknight. Then once I saw her and she was good enough to date again, there would be really no contact for about a week before I asked her out again. I did not let her expect one date led to another right away. Caller ID kept my knowing who I spoke to, and when she was good enough to see for a third time, she was eligible for a weekend night. I could juggle 2-4 at any one time, more than that was too many.

 

When I was in high school, fwiw, I dated women at different schools, which worked pretty well to keep them separated. But dating more than 2 was really hard, although easier in summer.

 

yeah i live in a smaller city, where most girls are found at schools and clubs..

thing is im not in school no more and when i got to clubs sometimes its hard for me to start conversations with girl because there always with their friends and sometimes become hostile