kryptik0 Posted February 26, 2007 Share Posted February 26, 2007 I am 31 years old and haven't had any healthy relationship yet. Well for that matter, I haven't even had many relationship, just a couple in last 5 years. One of the girls ended up taking my advantage financially, and the other one was emotionally unstable and had many many problems. I felt compelled to stay in that relationship for her and because I didn't have the guts to quit. Anyhow, I finally managed to get out about 6 months ago. Ever since, I haven't been able to make a good connection at all (not that my previous relationships were a good connection), but I am totally baffled by this. I don't have inferiority complex, I love myself, I believe that I am a great person and know that there is so much I can offer in a relationship. I have a great job, my finances are stable, have a healthy lifestyle, take good care of myself, am fit, good looking. In the nutshell, I see no reason why no one is attracted to me. I would totally date myself. I have tried online personals, I have tried CL, this has resulted in sporadic dates here and there and no second dates, either the women were too scary or they were turned off by me. No more than 10% of communications with people resulted in actual dates. Some were quite receptive until they found out that I am not from here. (I was born and brought up in another part of the world). Although I am not sure if thats the reason women immediately back off. I thought people were more open minded here. It's just so hard to not have someone to love, and it keeps getting worse every day. Don't get me wrong, I enjoy my life, I go out with friends often, I love to cook for them, we go out on the town on weekends, I am seriously into cycling and have many other varied interests and hobbies. But there is this void in my life that hurts so much. I don't know how long am I going to have to wait. This should not be this difficult. Even the most incapable (in all ways) guys have girlfriends or at least dates. All of my friends here have significant others. Most of my friends back home are either married or with someone. I feel so left out. I tried asking a friend of mine to set me up with this girl she's friends with. She did not show much interest, just said that girl is flaky and that she (my friend) needs to manage her life first. I was like wow. I never ask people things like this and then I get this kind of responses. Anyways, I am done ranting now. Feel a little better. Love is not meant for everyone, I guess I am one of the unlucky ones. Quote Link to comment
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