Celadon Posted February 25, 2007 Share Posted February 25, 2007 For those of you with better social skills than me I'd like to get your advice on how to handle a certain social situation. What do you do when you enter a group and there's clearly one person who is dominant? You want to join in. How do you get a word in edgewise, or how do you shift the attention from that person? My problem is that I resent domineering behavior. Often, the dominant person says the same things I would say, but they have the floor. I get so annoyed. For good or bad, it makes me feel competitive. And that makes me go silent, for fear that if I open my mouth I'll say something nasty. For example, today I joined a group of four people and one of the women kept asserting herself and her opinions and her wants. I sat there thinking, "Enough of you, already!" But I was the only one who felt that way, apparently. Everyone else was going along with her, mostly because she was making them feel included (but she was not addressing me). How do I *skillfully* and positively get what I want? I want to feel like I am part of the group. And sometimes, I'd even like to be in the center of the group. Thanks! Quote Link to comment
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