In too deep (prepare for a long message)

[hold_me_close]

It started at a football game. My friend threw me against a wall and told me she would like to be kissed like that. She didn't kiss me though, because a week prior, she asked me if I would go out with her and I told her no. Then at that moment at the game I started liking her. We are real good friends.

About two weeks later she broke up with her boyfriend, because they never talked. She was depressed and I was growing closer to her everyday, but not to the point that I would ask her out. Weeks later, a friend that she has known sense first grade asks her out. She accepts. They've been going out for 3 months now. One of my best friends likes her too. He's had a few "moments" with her. First, some of my friends went to a movie(i didn't get to go). After her boyfriend got picked up he grabbed her hand when she was going to go to the B-room. More recently , he kissed her. Those two are now inseprable. She likes both her boyfriend and my best friend the same amount. They both like her. She likes me as a friend now, and nothing more. I like her a lot. I thought she started liking me as more than a friend when she made me make a promise never to hurt myself again, but I found out that she didn't.

Right now, she's stuck between choosing her boyfriend and my bestfriend. I've been trying to help her choose, cus i want to find which of the two she would be more happy with. So basically I'm putting her first. All I want right now is her happiness. I don't care if you people say otherwise, I love everything about her(even her faults). I'm fully suportive of her actions.

 

I don't know what to do right now, because I'm severely depressed and frustrated. I just need opinions out of my group of friends.

[tmp0620]

If she doesn't like you the way you like her then what can you do? Move on. Believe me I've been in the same position you're in and you just need to accept reality.

[hold_me_close]

It'll be hard to do. All the other girls I like are either dating or don't want to.

Lucky me... I want to wait for her though. I know it'll take a while but im willing to do it.

[valenski]

Its really noble you want to wait for her, even though you'll probably be wait in vein, maybe during this "waiting period" you'll out grow her.

[Locke2121]

Your a true friend, putting her before yourself. But your taking it too far. What if she and your friend hit it off and live the rest of their lives together?

 

Be her friend, have her back...but put a bit of steel in your own back and start looking for someone for yourself. She could very well not be your soulmate, but your best bud forever....think hard on that.

[hold_me_close]

do you honsetly think that they are gonna live the rest of their lifes together? We re 14. That thought has crossed my mind. I want my bestfriend and her to have a good relationship, but I also want her too so I can't hope it'll last forever for them. Then when i think that, I think to myself that im selfish. Is it selfish of me???

[Locke2121]

No, its not selfish of you. I'm attracted to a wonderful girl at work, I want to tell her so bad that it actually hurts...but I'm not going to do anything about it. She is just getting out of a bad marriage, and I know how often rebound relationships die. And I honestly don't think that I would be the best thing for her right now. But I do want her to be happy, so I will be happy for her if she finds someone who makes her laugh, even if its only for a month.

 

You need to be happy for her and whomever she chooses. You need to hope that she finds the love of her life...and in the meantime, you need to be looking for yours! She's your friend...treasure that and move on.

[hold_me_close]

Thats what im trying to do. As much as I want us to be more, I cant let my feelings for her cloud my judgement. I'll always be a good friend to her.