NyGentleman Posted February 24, 2007 Share Posted February 24, 2007 Well for those of you who know me, Im back, its been a wild ride and Im sorry to say I havent stuck with the typical advice from everyone....For those of you who dont know me, the backstory as short as I can make it, Me and a girl, 2yrs friendship both in relationships, relationships fall apart, we grow closer, closer, closer, finally after VDAY we become 1, we are now together, (this was 4 days ago) ..... Up until 4 days ago she says she loves me all the time, loves spending time with me, being intimate, etc....Last night she stays over my place, everything is fine... This morning we wake up have some breakfast and for some reason we start talking about our ex's ....Well the convo turned weird and awkard and we leave it at that...well for some reason i have been feeling weird the past 4 days since we made it official, what got me mad and hurt was that she wasnt comfortable letting people know we were a couple, (mind you we also go to school together) and she couldnt even really kiss me at school or be girlfriendy in front of any of our friends...it got me thinking alot..... Well back to this morning i asked her do you still want to be together? and she couldnt answer....i got extremely mad and continued to ask her , well finally she speaks, says she feels as if we rushed it alittle, she is afraid and feels as if she is not ready to be serious, but says she doesnt want anything to change between us.... * * *? Just to key everyone in, when i asked the girl out was on VDAY, she got very nervous and so i told her take some time think it over and get back to me, well the following monday she told me she thinks we should be together, was hinting at it all day made it a point to make sure i knew that she finally wanted to take the next step! 4 days later she takes it all back?!? I dont understand, im hurt, and have many thoughts in my head, one of which how could i ever be with her now....she explains she is afraid and one thing that tipped her off was how she couldnt be so serious that she even told her friends (whom i just met a week ago and loved me) that we were together....she never changed her myspace status etc...it was like i was a secret like i was somewhat back in the ex's stage.... Im extremely heartbroken over this, and dont know how i can act normal with her again... Well as a small update I get an email from her saying she is sorry and that she wants us to be with eachother for the right reasons and not because we have been so close after all the time we have been friends etc...she also says she didnt feel as if she had enough time to heal from her previous relationship ...wow what did this guy do to her...all i know is she was very expressive about him being her bf when they were together as for me even though very early no public status of us being together, ...thats how this all started... Quote Link to comment
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