Marcus Fenix Posted February 24, 2007 Share Posted February 24, 2007 I am currently in my 2nd year of nursing; it is no surprise that females outnumber males in my program (approximately 4 to 1) the confusing part is, I seem to have little difficulty making jokes or talking to the girls in the class as long it does not pertain to dating. If a girl in the class shows what i interpret as interest in me, the situation changes. I tend to become very passive and defensive in these situations. It is as if, I would rather not try at all, then try and fail. I feel that it is likely that I overestimate the probability and effects of failure. Even if a girl seems to be giving multiple signals, I am reluctant to make a move since the chance of success can never be certain. It can be argued that the chance of success is essentially zero if I do not make a move, however there is a difference between the results of a failure due to not making a move, and a failure due to (asking a girl that was not interested, asking at the wrong time, asking in the wrong way, etc.) If I take no action, I risk less. I worry that if I am unsuccessful a number of times, that i will develop a reputation throughout the class as a pest. I could approach girls from outside my program, however by nature I am an Introvert (personality type INTJ) and I find it difficult to approach someone who I do not know anything about. What I would like to know is some ways to show interest in a girl that have a low potential for overly negative effects.(safe moves that even if I fail, not much harm will result). I realize that I tend to overanalyze matters and to not take my feelings into much account, however attempting to figure out a problem which I know very little about seems futile. Has anyone persevered over a similar set of problems? Perhaps I can learn from and be inspired by your experience. Quote Link to comment
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