Virgin Poll...Who's still a virgin?

[EQD]

It's something i've never done before.

 

I'm not good with lifting weights. I'm waaaaaaaay too weak for that.

 

I remember when I was in high school in gym, I could barely lift the bar during weightlifting.

 

That and my back isn't all that great so picking up things isn't the best for me.

 

that doesnt excuse you from cardio.

 

i think if anything its probably your defeatist attitude to blame for not getting girls.

and dont say i'm wrong, because naturally you probably would, you'd say that something entirely different was to blame.

 

the truth is you dont want to try anymore, you've been rejected too many times and it hurt you so you've given up. and are utterly afraid to try again, or even get your hopes up again.

 

thats cool. no matter who we are or how we look we have all felt that way.

 

In the end its personality that wins out. if you dont try and try again you will never succeed. proven fact.

 

you have to put your heart out on the line or you will never find love.

[jonny15]

that doesnt excuse you from cardio.

 

I should start running I guess.

 

i think if anything its probably your defeatist attitude to blame for not getting girls.

and dont say i'm wrong, because naturally you probably would, you'd say that something entirely different was to blame.

 

the truth is you dont want to try anymore, you've been rejected too many times and it hurt you so you've given up. and are utterly afraid to try again, or even get your hopes up again.

 

thats cool. no matter who we are or how we look we have all felt that way.

 

In the end its personality that wins out. if you dont try and try again you will never succeed. proven fact.

 

you have to put your heart out on the line or you will never find love.

 

It's just very difficult to do.

 

I've tried and had total failure.

 

It takes everything in me to ask a girl and i'm a very nervous person, so it just makes things worse.

[EQD]

I should start running I guess.

 

 

 

It's just very difficult to do.

 

I've tried and had total failure.

 

It takes everything in me to ask a girl and i'm a very nervous person, so it just makes things worse.

 

We all have these problems. all of us. i repeat. all.. of... us.

i am whats considered a short very attractive girl.

i tried going out and meeting people, being warm, flirting. the whole 9 yards. i tried dressing attractively. and i got turned down for 4 months straight.

its not just you.

 

i just quit trying. life isnt about dating. its not about who you are with. you arent given time on this earth solely to devote on finding a girl to date and screw. in the end yes, its human nature. but in the meantime pay attention to your own life and your own independent happiness.

its the only thing that matters. and it comes from within.

[MD Geist]

that doesnt excuse you from cardio.

 

i think if anything its probably your defeatist attitude to blame for not getting girls.

and dont say i'm wrong, because naturally you probably would, you'd say that something entirely different was to blame.

 

the truth is you dont want to try anymore, you've been rejected too many times and it hurt you so you've given up. and are utterly afraid to try again, or even get your hopes up again.

 

thats cool. no matter who we are or how we look we have all felt that way.

 

In the end its personality that wins out. if you dont try and try again you will never succeed. proven fact.

 

you have to put your heart out on the line or you will never find love.

 

It really doesn't matter how he looks really I'm overweight and yet I still get some interest from the oppsite sex although they aren't my type.

 

If anyone puts everything on straight sex appeal thats a redflag in my opinion because they aren't really looking for a soulmate they are really looking for a goodtime.

 

Yes Looks do mean something but it shouldn't mean everything.

[jonny15]

We all have these problems. all of us. i repeat. all.. of... us.

i am whats considered a short very attractive girl.

i tried going out and meeting people, being warm, flirting. the whole 9 yards. i tried dressing attractively. and i got turned down for 4 months straight.

its not just you.

 

i just quit trying. life isnt about dating. its not about who you are with. you arent given time on this earth solely to devote on finding a girl to date and screw. in the end yes, its human nature. but in the meantime pay attention to your own life and your own independent happiness.

its the only thing that matters. and it comes from within.

 

I don't have much of a life to pay attention too. lol. That might be a problem.

 

 

I guess I just don't understand it at all. It's confusing.

[l0vel0rn]

If you’ve been waiting to find the right one, don’t compromise and have sex for the sake of having sex. You will most likely end up regretting it anyway as the person you do it with will not appreciate what you are offering them, and you will feel cheap for giving it up so easily to someone who didn’t deserve it; especially if you end up meeting the right person afterwards.

[MD Geist]

If you’ve been waiting to find the right one, don’t compromise and have sex for the sake of having sex. You will most likely end up regretting it anyway as the person you do it with will not appreciate what you are offering them, and you will feel cheap for giving it up so easily to someone who didn’t deserve it; especially if you end up meeting the right person afterwards.

 

I really regret waiting for sex. I have been pluaged with trying to date and trufully I wish I had already had sex ages ago. Now its to late.

[EQD]

I don't have much of a life to pay attention too. lol. That might be a problem.

 

 

I guess I just don't understand it at all. It's confusing.

 

 

no one has 'no life'

if you dont have any hobbies then ask yourself why. everyone has 'something'

i mean, look at christian slater in pump up the volume. haha, he had nothing but a radio station.

[56mercgal]

I am and proud of it!! And I'm 42, just believe in it with the right guy.

[jonny15]

no one has 'no life'

if you dont have any hobbies then ask yourself why. everyone has 'something'

i mean, look at christian slater in pump up the volume. haha, he had nothing but a radio station.

 

 

I've never seen pump up the volume. lol

 

 

And I don't have any hobbies.

[ClarenceRutherford]

This is an interesting threads. Lots of things going on - desperation in peoples' minds.

And I feel for a lot of you guys/gals as though I had sex, I flopped at dating and was getting very desparate as I closed in on 30, so I know where you're coming from.

Be careful seeking something just for the sake of the act..

unfortunately I'm not. I'm 19 and just recently lost it... wish I hadn't... thought I loved the girl. But whatever.

Lost my virginity at 17-18. I too have regrets, which affected me for years.

I didn't have sex after her for most of my 20s with only 2 encounters at 26 & 27.

 

Notice I didn't say lovemaking, there's a difference!

The best LM I ever had came in a monogomous relationship after meeting my future wife shortly after turning 30....

[ut804]

not a virgin. i lost it at 19.

 

sex is overrated. maybe it's fun in the moment, but I've gotten bacterial infections, yeast infections, urinary tract infections. and it's scary to get tested for STDs. not fun. plus, i had a pregnancy scare once.

[Bluesman89]

I'm a virgin. And unfortunately I don't see that changing any time soon.

[ClarenceRutherford]

I'm a virgin. And unfortunately I don't see that changing any time soon.

Maybe not as soon as you like, but you'll get there. Trust me.

Besides, 21 is still a very young age. You're not old enough to get too worked up about it, IMHO>

 

Like I said, though I wasn't a virgin (I had VERY LIMITED experience), I didn't have sex most of my 20s, and only 2 encounters in my late 20s. The right girl came along at 30 - just as I thought all hope was lost.

 

A lot of that may have been due to me not having much self confidence, being an introvert, a late bloomer and my job taking me from town to town without any real roots... just as I began to get more social, I needed to find a better job so moved out of town.

 

I also turned down some offers I got bec. I knew from experience I didn't like casual sex.

Figured the great sex would come with a great relationship. It did come. Just a few years later than I wanted.

 

So don't give up. You will make it through.

[ClarenceRutherford]

On being a late bloomer, I didn't start masturbating until after I had sex in HS...

I think I really started MB'ing my freshman year in college.

 

Can't remember really being interested in losing my virginity in HS (of coure, I had sexual feelings). It just seemed to happen with someone that told me, "I never tried anything..." and the opportunity presented itself, an oppty. I regret taking advantage of.

(Yes, I think it would have been ultimately better for me to have waited until sometime in my 20s).

 

Guys MB and fantasize about sex, then have sex, not the other way around...

[iwishiknew]

Wow! I can't believe it has been 4 years since I made this post. Time just flys by so dam fast!! I wish time would slow down a bit! As of today I'm still a virgin

[ClarenceRutherford]

Wow! I can't believe it has been 4 years since I made this post. Time just flys by so dam fast!! I wish time would slow down a bit! As of today I'm still a virgin

On time (not virginity), just wait 'till you get close to 50...

For the past five years or so, time has really flown. The days don't go slow anymore like they did when you were a child or bored in class in HS.

 

On virginity, wonder how many who posted in this thread remain that. Not that it is something to brag about or get down on yourself over.

[sara-pezzini]

i don't remember if i posted here back then but i lost my virginity since the start of this poll, at the age of 36!!! and not that it's weird or not normal to be a virgin, for myself personally i lost it in a great and loving way and since then my self confidence grew and i finally feel normal...like everyone else...so i am very happy about it, i remember feeling left out and the older i got the more i was sure it would never happen, i was way too scared and i always felt like a loser because of it..but met a great and wonderful and understanding man who had the patience to wait for a long time and who made sure i enjoyed it and wasn't scared...

[iwishiknew]

On time (not virginity), just wait 'till you get close to 50...

For the past five years or so, time has really flown. The days don't go slow anymore like they did when you were a child or bored in class in HS.

 

On virginity, wonder how many who posted in this thread remain that. Not that it is something to brag about or get down on yourself over.

 

 

I don't want to be a virgin when I'm close to 50. I know I would be so depressed and I don't think I would be able to continue and move on in life.

[ClarenceRutherford]

Originally Posted by FloridaMan

On time (not virginity), just wait 'till you get close to 50...

For the past five years or so, time has really flown. The days don't go slow anymore like they did when you were a child or bored in class in HS.

 

On virginity, wonder how many who posted in this thread remain that. Not that it is something to brag about or get down on yourself over.

I don't want to be a virgin when I'm close to 50. I know I would be so depressed and I don't think I would be able to continue and move on in life.

There's no rational reason, iwishiknew, to think you'll be a virgin at 50. I imagine you'll be long married by then.

I was 34 when I married and my wife was 36 (neither of us had been married before), so people are marrying much later in life.

 

About age 50, I was talking about the pace of time going quickly, not virginity. Just want to make that clear.

 

BTW, I wasn't a virgin when I met my future wife, but had very limited expeirence from 18-30. Some experience in HS (which was AWFUL, read the thread I started on that) & two "encounters" in my late 20s. What's that make my "score?" All of 2X in my 20s?

 

You may say, "Well... at least you had some experience..."

 

Yes, but regretful. While sex is much better than masturbating, casual sex, where it goes fast and you don't know the other person and don't have any emotions invested, isn't much better than MB. I would have preferred to have remained a virgin in my 20s than experience casual sex, which only leaves you feeling empty.

[LightbulbSun]

Being a virgin is better than losing it to some random person. If it's not with someone you love, it's no more than masturbation with a body.

 

It's much better to wait, IMO.

[ClarenceRutherford]

Being a virgin is better than losing it to some random person. If it's not with someone you love, it's no more than masturbation with a body.

 

It's much better to wait, IMO.

That's spot-on.

 

Pleasure yourself as MB is a good and healthy outlet Don't give into pornography, another topic.

Can't say MB is as good as the real thing, but it always helps and is far better bec. you won't have to deal with the consequences of giving yourself to the wrong person. Again, speaking from experience...

[PonytailFairy]

I am. I do not find any intreresting about sex.

[ClarenceRutherford]

I am. I do not find any intreresting about sex.

Was going to PM you on this, but you're not "of age" yet.

How old are you, if we can ask?

[PonytailFairy]

Was going to PM you on this, but you're not "of age" yet.

How old are you, if we can ask?

 

I am over 30.