capitalconfusion Posted February 23, 2007 Share Posted February 23, 2007 My girlfriend of 2 years broke up with me recently. I have had a horrendous couple of weeks dealing with the pain, rejection, denial ... all that stuff. I hunted for signs that she would back down, I tried to create confusion. On the other hand she sounded confused as well. I spoke and connected with my feelings and emotions with such clarity that she was shocked, kind of happy for me and a little annoyed - "why didnt you do this 6 months ago?". Alas, I was a little lost in the relationship and didnt ask for help or communicate with her my real problems. Anyway, one thing that we lost sight of was fun. We really did have fun together and she admitted after the break that she had the most fun with me than anyone else. I'm seeing her soon - I dont want this break up to be worse than it should be. I love this woman and I want to show her and myself that we can part in a "good" way. I plan to take her to a place that we always planned to go to but never went. Its only 10 minutes away but for me it's a form of closure. I want to celebrate what we tried to create, not mope that it went pear shaped. Have a drink, sit on the roof of the car and laugh. BUT - I can feel another side of me trying to prove that the guy she lost love for was always there, but was just not there for some of the time. I will deal with being there more of the time in future but for now ... going out with happiness and laughter seems like an appropriate way to say goodbye. I dont expect her to turn around and say - wow, i want you back. That wont happen. I cant force good memories on her - clearly she has bad memories or the split wouldnt be happening ... but what is wrong with enjoying the last moments with the person you were so committed to and planned a life with? Quote Link to comment
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