Night Pumpkin Posted February 22, 2007 Share Posted February 22, 2007 This may sound sad, but I really don't know anyone who actually dates anymore. People I know just seem to hook up and do things together, but these things couldn't really be classified as a formal date. They might go swimming together or something like that. But no one I know atleast dates in an idealistic sense, getting all dressed up for a night at a nice restaurant followed by dancing and a walk along the beach... does anyone actually still do that ??? Quote Link to comment
EvaGina Posted February 22, 2007 Share Posted February 22, 2007 Yep... did it with the ex... But then, those kinds of dates are expensive, especially for people around my age Quote Link to comment
Hayles Posted February 22, 2007 Share Posted February 22, 2007 My BF and I still date - 3 years on... we go on picnincs and go out for dinner and we think of new, special things we can do and places to go on our dates... but yeah - I was 22 when I met him - and it was probably one of my very first 'real' dates!! I think most people go for the comfort factor - it's easier to get to know one another just going for a walk or something than sitting awkwardly accross from one another in a loud restaurant... Quote Link to comment
Ericson Posted February 22, 2007 Share Posted February 22, 2007 lol eva, you reply to nearly every post, Im actully starting to get annoyed at that picture. > Quote Link to comment
jengh Posted February 22, 2007 Share Posted February 22, 2007 i'd LOVE to date... but guys around here are just all about hooking up... it's hard to find a guy who still enjoys a nice date. Quote Link to comment
Hayles Posted February 22, 2007 Share Posted February 22, 2007 Hehe... yeah, I think on here it's like a race to see if you can post before Eva - it's cute!!! hehe Quote Link to comment
EvaGina Posted February 22, 2007 Share Posted February 22, 2007 lol eva, you reply to nearly every post, Im actully starting to get annoyed at that picture. > sorry its SO BORING at work... If I could download an im thing here, I would Quote Link to comment
Hayles Posted February 22, 2007 Share Posted February 22, 2007 Oh - You go!!! You do a great job and have some awesome advice for a broad array of subjects!!! Keep posting! Quote Link to comment
Night Pumpkin Posted February 22, 2007 Author Share Posted February 22, 2007 Back on topic please.... about dating.... Quote Link to comment
Daligal83 Posted February 22, 2007 Share Posted February 22, 2007 I think dating is still definitely out there. While my boyfriend and I were making the transition from friends to relationship, we went on dates. They might not have been the fanciest things, but we're college students. One I remember in particular is we went to this plaza on the canal and we got ice cream, walked along the canal, went to a bar, walked along the canal more, just talked the whole time. It was amazing. I've also had other guys before him take me out on some nice dates. I think if you find a guy who won't do that and that's what you want, it's a good sign you might not be a good match. Quote Link to comment
Zaphod Posted February 22, 2007 Share Posted February 22, 2007 i'd LOVE to date... but guys around here are just all about hooking up... it's hard to find a guy who still enjoys a nice date. Oh I don't know. If that is you in your avatar (either one lol) the pleasure would be all mine. I'm a bit old for you, and in completely the wrong country, but apart from those two minor points........ Anyway - hope you get a nice date soon. Don't worry - some hunk waiting round the corner to surprise you. Patience is a virtue Quote Link to comment
Batya33 Posted February 22, 2007 Share Posted February 22, 2007 There is a new book - I think the author's last name is Sessions -on precisely that issue. I skimmed most of it - easy, quick, interesting read - and it is exactly on point to what you posted. I am older (40) but I've always tradtionally dated. I've met men on vacation where we "hung out" and in college there was some of that but since then, it's pretty tradtional - men ask me out, more often than not with a specific plan in mind (sometimes free - free theater, walk in the park, museum, picnic) and in advance. My boyfriend and I still "date" and have been together over a year. We enjoy it - the planning and the date. I do know a number of people my age, older and younger who hang out and hook up casually. Quote Link to comment
i1dr Posted February 22, 2007 Share Posted February 22, 2007 I like dating. It's the dating that is nice sometimes - not the potential for "more". (although sometimes a mans mind may wander I even take my ex-wife out once in a while now that I'm single and avoiding reality - just to have the fun of the ritual (and there is no desire for anything "more" there for neither of us - heck we could sleep in the same bed ... and just want to sleep) So count me in as someone who likes the idea of a formal or casual date. Quote Link to comment
caro33 Posted February 22, 2007 Share Posted February 22, 2007 Yes people still date, but as Eva said, it's probably also got a lot to do with age and finances. I didn't even have nice clothes to get dolled up in 10 years ago, but perhaps I was a freak like that. The nicer dates I've been on have only been since I've been making some real money, and my dates do okay too. (BTW E I always wander around here with "it's such a perfect day, I'm glad I spent it with you.." and it took me ages to realise it's because I have been absorbing the words from your sig from your numerous and very relevant posts . Pity the version I know best is the Duran Duran cover version ) Quote Link to comment
Zaphod Posted February 22, 2007 Share Posted February 22, 2007 I think it's important to keep up dating when in a couple because it forces you to act in a certain way to each other for a few hours, and shifts perspective, refreshes things, gives a different environment. Reminds you what you're all about together. I didn't give my girl enough dates towards the end because I didn't have a lot of money and I was exhausted, and I just feel awful about it . Quote Link to comment
Batya33 Posted February 22, 2007 Share Posted February 22, 2007 Well, if you were dating more than a few months shouldn't she have been participating in the planning? I'm sure you did just fine. Quote Link to comment
annie24 Posted February 22, 2007 Share Posted February 22, 2007 I usually date, not so much "hanging out" anymore. partially because me and my friends are all so busy, it's not so common that we just call each other and say, "oh, come over right now." Not that that doesn't happen, just not so often. Quote Link to comment
Caterina Posted February 22, 2007 Share Posted February 22, 2007 sorry its SO BORING at work... If I could download an im thing here, I would rofl i know the feeling...except its not at work Quote Link to comment
PrincessJOA Posted February 22, 2007 Share Posted February 22, 2007 Sighhh.... I want to go on dates like that too! Where you dress up and look stunning and he'll arrive with a rose and takes you out to a romantic restaurant, and then we'll do a little slow dance when they play nice romantic songs especially by Whitney Houston...and then a walk at the beach! sighhhh.... well me and my boyfriend went to the zoo once... its a fun date~ Quote Link to comment
Zaphod Posted February 22, 2007 Share Posted February 22, 2007 Whitney Houston I'll take you on one if you let me off that bit Quote Link to comment
Goblin Posted February 22, 2007 Share Posted February 22, 2007 Yups me and my gf still do the things people do when they date but we wont call it 'dating' like going to the beach, take a walk, watching movies. Its only when we do something a little new or extra special and it feels like when we were in our first 3 months then I would consider it a 'date' w my gf. This happens at least once in two months. Just take it easy abt dating w ur partner. You dont have to do special dinners or go special places and dress up all the time. Its tiring plus u got to be practical in a relationship. Uve got work and hobbies too... Just imagine if every meet is a date....it wouldnt feel special in the long run.. Date less frequently to keep the spark! Quote Link to comment
annie24 Posted February 22, 2007 Share Posted February 22, 2007 Sighhh.... I want to go on dates like that too! Where you dress up and look stunning and he'll arrive with a rose and takes you out to a romantic restaurant, and then we'll do a little slow dance when they play nice romantic songs especially by Whitney Houston...and then a walk at the beach! sighhhh.... well me and my boyfriend went to the zoo once... its a fun date~ I wonder if lesbians are more romantic in their relationships? Afterall, women know what women want! Quote Link to comment
Night Pumpkin Posted February 22, 2007 Author Share Posted February 22, 2007 I am very much of an idealist, and like the whole idea of traditional formal dating.......... i don't think money really should be an issue.....one doesn't need to be rich, just creative. I like dressing up for date, but i only have one set of pants, one shirt, and one tie, that i have had for the last 7 years, and which i use everytime. Its good to dress up, even if you do it on a budget (all these items by the way were bought at half price)........ Quote Link to comment
PrincessJOA Posted February 22, 2007 Share Posted February 22, 2007 I'll take you on one if you let me off that bit Deal.Lol! The things a girl have to do to get a decent romantic classic date Quote Link to comment
sophie274 Posted February 22, 2007 Share Posted February 22, 2007 My boyfriend and I do both - we "hang out" together in an informal manner, but then we also go on planned dates about once a week ... usually out to dinner, ice cream, the movies. We also go to semi-formal and formal dances, sometimes we do walks, and then once in a while we will go to NYC (we go to school about an hour away) and spend the day there. Quote Link to comment
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