Should I call her?

[Jim09]

It's a typical question and I know the answer should be to go for it, but I'm just not sure if this girl gave me her number because she wanted me to call her and ask her out or for whatever other reason.

 

A few days ago, I ran into her at school. We took a few classes together before but none this semester so we haven't seen each other at all this year. We talked for a while, but just about school stuff. What classes we're taking right now, how everything's going, we didn't even talk for long. She gave me her number, and didn't tell me to call her anytime. She just said it's always good to keep in touch, or something like that. So I'm not sure exactly what she was expecting and if I really should call her up. We always talked a little but usually about school, so we were never that close.

[Zaphod]

Just because you call her doesn't mean you should ask her out as well.

How about a short friendly chat just to try and establish the lie of the land?

 

Then if you think terrain looks good, call her again a few days later and ask her out.

[DN]

What would happen if you asked her out and she said 'no'?

 

Not much except a certain but temporary embarrassment and the knowledge that you are now even more free to ask someone else.

[Hope75]

I'd pay more attention to her actions than what she said to you.

She gave you her number. That's not exactly subtle.

 

Call her!

[Batya33]

My guess is that she wants you to call her and to ask her out. Definitely call her and do your best to gague her enthusiasm on the phone. I have more than once given my number out in the guise of wanting to do business or because we both have a similar interest and want to keep in touch but it was really my way of opening the door to a possible date. And, you can test the waters by inviting her to something more casual so that it's not 100% clear whether it's a date, and see how she reacts. That way if she says no, she won't know for sure whether it was meant as a date.

 

And - I would call within the next few days but not on Saturday.

[annie24]

I give my number all the time to guys I think are nasty and gross!

 

NOT!

 

She wants you to ask her out, so go for it!

[addictedblue]

i agree with everyone. you said you barely see her anyway, so if she says no, big deal you'll get over it and probably won't have to see her much. and if she says yeah, then great! everything to gain here so go for it.

[caro33]

Call her, why not? I'm with the others - I would never give my number to someone I didn't want to call me. I certainly wouldn't offer unless I was keen.

[Dating Coach]

When you call her, don't play the "uninterested male girlfriend", play the "i'm intrested and want to take you out" role.

[pianoguy]

At the risk of sounding stupid-

 

Is this a girl you're interested in? You don't sound terribly excited from your post. If you're interested of course you should ask her out- I mean the worst that can happen is she can say no.

[annie24]

At the risk of sounding stupid-

 

Is this a girl you're interested in? You don't sound terribly excited from your post. If you're interested of course you should ask her out- I mean the worst that can happen is she can say no.

 

i agree - i was thinking something similar. you don't sound too excited about her. are you interested in dating her?