littlebylittle Posted February 21, 2007 Share Posted February 21, 2007 Evening All, After a promising few weeks getting over the ex I've hit a rough few days and am in need of a slap. Not a hug - A slap. Broke up 12 weeks ago. Had 3 weeks NC during January. Work together so have some contact everyday during the whole period. The Hard Facts She has started seeing someone else (about 6 weeks after we split up) She is moving 300 miles away She leaves next Wednesday ...So Why? Have I regressed to what feels like the first weeks after breaking up. For 3-4 weeks I was doing well and enjoying life. Found out she was moving away and that gave me some closure. Found out she is seeing someone else and that helped some more. BUT. For reasons I cannot explain to myself I'm starting to want her back all over again - ARRRGGHHHHHH I thinking that maybe it is just the timing. The previous feelings of closure seem to have been false dawns, only now the 'real' end is near am I starting to accept things. I'm fairly confident I had done already - when I found out she was seeing someone I didn't feel too upset, I was almost happy that she'll have someone there for her (this thread "a final bruise, but at least it's closure" gives details for those interested ). About that slap Guys. I need you to remind me that SHE IS NOT COMING BACK. I know I don't need her anymore, that is fine, sure I want her back, but don't need her to be happy in my life. SHE IS NOT COMING BACK. The thing is - the volume of positive thinking I've put in as part of the healing process has put me in a place where I think I can achieve anything (...you know what I mean, it's like I'm permanently in that drunken 'superman' state, only sober of course). So. Would some of you be kind enough to provide me with 1 - A slap and tell me to "move on, accept it, stop beating yourself up......the evidence is just too strong to suggest otherwise". 2 - Your thoughts on whether the fact that we work together actually means that, despite her new relationship, she will only really begin her healing process once she moves away? SHE IS NOT COMING BACK (...come on damn brain, accept it) Back up comments and thoughts appreciated. Quote Link to comment
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