kate111 Posted February 20, 2007 Share Posted February 20, 2007 Do you think sometimes people regret certain people they dump? In time want them back after they have sown their wild oats? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
astaro Posted February 20, 2007 Share Posted February 20, 2007 i defanently think it happens. i would say the rule of thumb in taking back a person who dumped you is make sure HIS life is good at the moment, make sure HE is happy. if someone wants a person back cuse they havnt dated in 6 months and are lonly its a really bad sign. on the other hand if he's happy, fixed up his life, and wants to get back together he/she probebly realises they made a mistake. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
annie24 Posted February 20, 2007 Share Posted February 20, 2007 Do you think sometimes people regret certain people they dump? In time want them back after they have sown their wild oats? yeah, I think so. sometimes that happens, not always. and I agree with astaro, you have to be careful of WHY they are coming back. could be that they sniffed around for a while, and haven't met anyone better, so they want to go back to you to have a sex partner in the meantime.... until the next breakup. I wouldn't wait around for the ex to "finish sowing their wild oats." that would just a waste of time. assume the relationship is over for good and move forward. if he shows up at your place with a dozen roses 6 months from now, then you can consider it.... that is, if you even want him back by then! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lifestream Posted February 20, 2007 Share Posted February 20, 2007 It does happen, and it has happened to me. However, wanting to get back with your ex can either be one of two (or more) things. A) You genuinely miss the person B) You are idealizing your ex and want them back This is the dilemma...how can you tell if you're genuine of if you're idealizing your ex? Hindsight really isn't always 20/20, as our memory gets cloudy and blurry and things become less and less clear over time...so the one that got away might be the one you had to let go in the first place. I found that was (and somewhat still is) my problem right now. I'm idealizing my ex and want her back...but every time I come into contact with her I can still see reasons why I actually broke up with her in the first place. If left to my memory I would only remember how great she was. But in person certain characteristics rear their ugly head again... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
4answers Posted April 7, 2009 Share Posted April 7, 2009 I dumped a girl over 10 years ago. Biggist mistake of my life. Stayed friends with her for a year or so. And because she was in my life I thought I had made the right decision. It was only when she met another and was gone from my life, did I realise what I had lost. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Qut81 Posted April 8, 2009 Share Posted April 8, 2009 I dumped a girl over 10 years ago. Biggist mistake of my life. Stayed friends with her for a year or so. And because she was in my life I thought I had made the right decision. It was only when she met another and was gone from my life, did I realise what I had lost. Why do men do this? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
4answers Posted April 9, 2009 Share Posted April 9, 2009 Well in my case I was scared of the next step. I kept looking at what I thougth I would be losing by taking the next step. As long as I thought this way her value to me was low. It was only when she was gone, did I realise her true value to me and I was heartbroken... To late to fix at that stage..... Still her choice, her road ......... I wonder if she ever thinks about the choice she made... Prob not... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
glegend Posted April 9, 2009 Share Posted April 9, 2009 Yes, and all the time. This questions is like a life question. I think regrets come all the time. I know someone who really regrets breaking up with one of their girlfriends, because his parents made him. She was Spanish and of Catholic religion, and this guy is Greek of Orthodox religion. His parents wanted him to have a Greek girl and he ended up breaking up with her. He's said many times that if he didnt break up with her that they would be married todday and they would have kids. Now he has a girlfriend who doesn't want to get married, move in together or have kids. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ScorpiGal83 Posted April 9, 2009 Share Posted April 9, 2009 Yes, and all the time. This questions is like a life question. I think regrets come all the time. I know someone who really regrets breaking up with one of their girlfriends, because his parents made him. She was Spanish and of Catholic religion, and this guy is Greek of Orthodox religion. His parents wanted him to have a Greek girl and he ended up breaking up with her. He's said many times that if he didnt break up with her that they would be married todday and they would have kids. Now he has a girlfriend who doesn't want to get married, move in together or have kids. A good friend of mine broke up with his girlfriend of 2 years because his mum didn't like her. Thing is, they were so ready to go the next step and get married, but he's kind of a momma's boy I guess, so they broke up, keeping in touch with the hope that one day it'll be ok for them to be together again. Well, that was 2 years ago or more... and the girl is now engaged to be married to someone else. My friend still loves her so much and his heart is broken, but he really didn't expect her to wait for him, either. It's sad really. I don't think I would break up with someone my parents didn't like unless it was legitimate reasons like they were abusive, on drugs, or something... this girl, the reason his mum didn't like her was because the mum felt she was 'using' him, because he liked to drive her to work and pick her up and stuff. not that she made him, and once she got her license she drove herself. it's weird how parents are. they can really ruin your life! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hulk7280 Posted April 10, 2009 Share Posted April 10, 2009 Why do men do this? why do women do this? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Qut81 Posted April 13, 2009 Share Posted April 13, 2009 why do women do this? I dont do it and I dont know many women who do. Its mostly men who want their cake and want to eat it too. They find someone they think is more attractive or better in some way bc they need variety, they leave, and then all of a sudden get upset when the woman starts dating someone else. Men are just greedy and selfish. Most of them dont care about anyone but themselves and their libido. Nothing is ever enough for them, unless someone else wants the women they left high and dry, THEN they come to their senses and realize they made a mistake. Im really starting to hate men. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rapunzel Posted April 13, 2009 Share Posted April 13, 2009 I dumped a girl over 10 years ago. Biggist mistake of my life. Stayed friends with her for a year or so. And because she was in my life I thought I had made the right decision. It was only when she met another and was gone from my life, did I realise what I had lost. This happened with my ex. He didn't want HIS ex until she finally said bye bye after a year or more of being "friends" as he would not commit after on again off again for 4 years. She started dating someone else and told him she wanted to be "friends". He told me he did not realize how he felt about her until after she was gone. And of course by then, as it always is, it was too late. I wonder if this might happen with me, when (hopefully) I find someone else and move on. Will he regret giving me up? It's sad that this happens so often. I will agree that with a lot of men (especially my ex) it's an ego thing. Even though he didn't want her, once she was with someone else and didn't want HIM anymore, his ego couldn't handle it. A few months ago, at one of our shows, I was greeting a male friend and talking to him...my ex came over, introduced himself and sat IN BETWEEN me and this guy! He doesn't want me, but he doesn't want anyone else to have me either. The funny thing is the male friend is married. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
servedcold Posted April 15, 2009 Share Posted April 15, 2009 I dont do it and I dont know many women who do. Its mostly men who want their cake and want to eat it too. They find someone they think is more attractive or better in some way bc they need variety, they leave, and then all of a sudden get upset when the woman starts dating someone else. Men are just greedy and selfish. Most of them dont care about anyone but themselves and their libido. Nothing is ever enough for them, unless someone else wants the women they left high and dry, THEN they come to their senses and realize they made a mistake. Im really starting to hate men. Riddle me this then, why is it that women do a vast majority of the breaking up? Which gender is notorious for keeping exes and fake friends on the backburner for emotional support, ego stroking and having a safe place to land when something goes wrong in their current relationship, men or women? Which sex makes a vast majority of divorce filings? Which sex leaves relationships strictly for money, men or women? There is no "chief villain" in the gender wars. Both sides are to blame. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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