WorldPeace Posted February 20, 2007 Share Posted February 20, 2007 I have always had a hard time finding a girl that I could connect right with and because of this I have never had a girl friend or even ever went on a date with someone. Now I found someone that I pretty much feel for and was hanging out around her and her friends(all senior except for a few people) and then the topic of age came up and I found out that she was 14 years old... I don't know what to do now, I know that in societys views its wrong( i'll be a outcast on society) but I feel lonely when im not around her.](*,) Im also afriad because I know its illegal to date someone at that age(NY) what should I do? Should I see a counselor about this? Im at a lose... Im just going to try and avoid her for now and see if I feel better after a while... Quote Link to comment
melrich Posted February 20, 2007 Share Posted February 20, 2007 How old are you? I guess unless you are 15 maybe 16 the your best course is to stay away from her. Don't put yourself in a position where the decision becomes more difficult for you. Quote Link to comment
J6hn Posted February 20, 2007 Share Posted February 20, 2007 It would be illegal to engage in sexual relations, not date. If you're willing to see her but take it to the bedroom it shouldn't be too frowned upon. Be patient with her. Enjoy eachothers company. There are so many positives you can get out of a relationship. Who's society to dictate who we have feelings for anyway? Quote Link to comment
WorldPeace Posted February 20, 2007 Author Share Posted February 20, 2007 Its not illegal to date her? I thought it was, now im all confused... Its only illegal to engage in sexual relations? I thought her parents could still press charges if they wanted to? Quote Link to comment
HellFrost666 Posted February 20, 2007 Share Posted February 20, 2007 I don't think the law can control who dates who. Just who sleeps with who. Quote Link to comment
NKP Posted February 20, 2007 Share Posted February 20, 2007 If you had sex with her yes that would be illegal, but to date her thats alright no one can do anything about it Quote Link to comment
lifestream Posted February 20, 2007 Share Posted February 20, 2007 The age difference isn't THAT immense. In Canadian law there's nothing against people who are within age of (I think) five years. I don't know for sure, but I don't think it's illegal. The Criminal Code does not now criminalize consensual sexual activity with or between persons 14 or over, unless it takes place in a relationship of trust or dependency This is Canadian law... So my suggestion is to move to Canada Quote Link to comment
J6hn Posted February 20, 2007 Share Posted February 20, 2007 Here in Australia it's you're aloud to at 12 but only with someone within 2 years of your age. Once you turn 18 you can do what (or in this case "who") you want... just as long as you're not breaking that previous law. Quote Link to comment
WorldPeace Posted February 20, 2007 Author Share Posted February 20, 2007 Thanks a lot for all the help. oh yeah and at the person that said move to canada, yeah I guess i'll just up and run with her, yeah right lol! America law is kinda screwy though, I gotta admit... Quote Link to comment
WorldPeace Posted February 21, 2007 Author Share Posted February 21, 2007 Wait but lets say in the future her parents don't accept me, can't they press charges? Quote Link to comment
NKP Posted February 21, 2007 Share Posted February 21, 2007 Only if you are having sex with her Quote Link to comment
WorldPeace Posted February 21, 2007 Author Share Posted February 21, 2007 So kissing doesn't count as sex in the laws views right? Quote Link to comment
NKP Posted February 21, 2007 Share Posted February 21, 2007 So kissing doesn't count as sex in the laws views right? Nope it doesnt, kissing is only kissing that is aloud Quote Link to comment
WorldPeace Posted February 21, 2007 Author Share Posted February 21, 2007 Ok thanks a lot I feel better now. Quote Link to comment
NKP Posted February 21, 2007 Share Posted February 21, 2007 Ok thanks a lot I feel better now. Glad to help Quote Link to comment
petey1343608 Posted February 21, 2007 Share Posted February 21, 2007 depends on how mature she is and how far u wanna take it? Quote Link to comment
MystikalDawn Posted February 22, 2007 Share Posted February 22, 2007 hey im 18 and am in the same boat as you lol a girl i really like but shes 14...i however live in Canada so am i safe??? lol Quote Link to comment
WorldPeace Posted February 22, 2007 Author Share Posted February 22, 2007 Yeah I think you are safe...not fair at all!:splat: Quote Link to comment
Mythical_Suicide Posted February 22, 2007 Share Posted February 22, 2007 I'd be very wary of kissing her as well, in alot of places even kissing constitutes as a sexual act on a minor. I know, very stupid law but i'd be careful as well as the parents could very well press charges on you even though you two don't engage in any form of sexual behavior.. The laws may seem stupid but are only out there to protect young people who may think they're ready when in all reality they're not. Just be careful that's all I can say. Quote Link to comment
WorldPeace Posted February 23, 2007 Author Share Posted February 23, 2007 Wait they can press charges even if im not sexual with her... Now im scared...dammit.](*,) Quote Link to comment
Mythical_Suicide Posted February 25, 2007 Share Posted February 25, 2007 Yes, they can! That's why its always best to not push the issue until she's legal. Some states do have laws where it's okay if there's less than 4 years difference. I know here in NC if she was 15, and say you were 19 it would be legal. Quote Link to comment
WorldPeace Posted February 25, 2007 Author Share Posted February 25, 2007 Well this sucks... Dammit:sad: Quote Link to comment
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